Nothing is more peeving than seeing the likes of Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat turn into a dating site. Social media culture has given users a false sense of identity shaped by retweets and posts, persuading them into who they should be and how they should act. "Pick Me" users upload, often intentionally, ploys to gain attention from their followers (often of the opposite sex). They attempt to earn their approval by posting things that fall under social media norms for dating and relationships. In a sense, these users try to get "picked" by the opposite sex, hence the term. All of "pick me" users are annoying, however, here's the sure fire way to get blockedt!
1. "here's how to keep a man happy" users:
These users' thoughts on relationships and acceptable standards are based on a haphazardly made grid of superficial happiness from their lover (flowers, Starbucks, and Victoria Secret panties, etc.) They take to Twitter posting threads of "how to keep a man 101" suggesting making sandwiches, sexual favors, not going through his phone, and not being insecure. Granted, all these things are a few small facets to a successful relationship, but should not at all be the standard. The intentions may seem harmless, but those are often not the motives behind it. Social media culture has reinforced these ideas of what makes relationships acceptable through "relationship goals" that we unconsciously repost. These users capitalize off of these ideals and conform to them in search of retweets and the approval of men as if listing their qualifications on E-harmony.
2. "I'm not like these other chicks" users:
These users like to accentuate their features and characteristics by demonizing those who don't have them. For example, some users like to post about how "savage" they are, and how they lack the emotions of a typical female. In turn, demonizing those with emotions and simultaneously making themselves seem more desirable with a sense of mystique. We see this all too often on social media! Users allow this false sense of confidence instilled over the web to shape how they want to be perceived.
3. "You're messing with a real freak" users:
These users are by far the worst! They post sexually suggesting things, not out of sheer sexual confidence and liberation, but out of seeking approval! Consistently posting what sexual favors make you "wifey material", is not just unbearably annoying, but harmful. Simple minded individuals allow these platforms to set the standard for what women should be and should do! As well, it creates a negative stigma for women who don't openly embrace these characteristics.
All in all, there's nothing wrong with women who post and embrace this behavior. Women who genuinely do so don't need to boast to get attention or reassurance. However, doing so with the wrong motives is just annoying. The jig is up, sis, we see what you're doing (as well as any man with sense). If you just want someone to see what dating qualifications you have, there's plenty of platforms that'll be perfect for you, i.e. Black People Meet, E-harmony, Tinder, Christian Mingle, Farmers Only --TAKE YOUR PICK! But dear god, please, please spare us on Twitter from your alchemy of dating antics.
Thanks!
- management
