It is usually hard for people to keep their past in the past and not bring it the present. When you are struggling with an event or a heartache that had happened years, months, or even weeks ago, it can cause anger in your lifestyle. You will take your problems out on others around you and you will begin to think they don’t want anything to do with you, simply because they don’t want to be around the negativity in your life. When you have negativity in your life, your past will begin to define your present and your future.
Look at your past as if it is the devil: you don’t want the devil to take over your life, right? No. Let it go and move forward. Don’t look back in the rearview mirror and start to miss how things used to be. Do not use your past as your comfort zone either. Most people go back to their past relationships because of how comfortable they are with that person. The fact that it was a bad relationship wont mean a thing, it’s just the fact that it is comfortable to you, because you don’t want to have to leave your walls up and have go through the trouble of the new person breaking them down an getting hurt again. Even with a mistake you had made in your past — do not let that one mistake define who you are, even if people are downgrading you because of it. It was a mistake that was made and that you have learned from.
You are not the same person back then as you are now. You have made many mistakes since then and you have learned from them to know better and to better yourself as a human being. If you have friends, boyfriends or girlfriends that constantly remind you of your past mistakes, then leave them behind and find some new friends who will actually support your decisions and help you make better ones. Do not let someone that you used to love hold you back for making new opportunities for yourself.
The most important and most difficult thing to do for yourself is forgive yourself for your mistakes and going back to your comfort zone. The anger that you feel is because you are mad at yourself for letting any of your mistakes happen and letting them go as far as they did. In order for you to forgive yourself, you have to actually and deeply want to forgive yourself and move on. You cannot doubt yourself, you have to believe that you can do it. The moment you doubt yourself is the moment you are right back to where the devil wants you. Do not give in to believing you can make your past better. The only time that is possible is when you forgive yourself and give yourself a new beginning.
Start over, and learn from your past instead of dwelling in it. Have a more positive attitude, and love the people that you are around. Become more humble with your words and actions. The moment you actually move on, the better you will feel, because by then, you wont have time to look at the past, because you will be so happy to see what God has in store for your future.
