It started as a text. A simple, “Hey, how’s it going?” You gave the generic response back and the conversation continued and progressed. That text turned into countless conversations, day after day.

Finally, this text turned into a date. This is the date that you have been waiting to go on for what seems like forever. Date number one turns into the next date and the next date and the next date until finally you are completely smitten. Next up comes the relationship phase.

You take that relationship and you grab it by the horns. You go on trips, dates, you have fights, you go to bed angry, you spend all of your time consumed with this one person.

Then, that person turns out to be the wrong person for you. You fight yourself wondering why you entered this relationship and what you are supposed to do about this. You were in love at one point and it was fantastic, you were on top of the world. Now, those feelings have changed.

Where you once felt love, you now feel loneliness. Where you once felt happiness, you now feel depression. Where you once spoke without fear, you now think over everything you say in your head and sometimes avoid speaking all together.

You were a confident person before this relationship, you didn’t have any reserves. You felt without fear of the future and loved with all that you had. This relationship took it’s tole on you. You spent months regretting getting into this relationship but you never did anything about it.

Some argue that you used this person, you stayed with them just to get something out of it for yourself. Some will say that you were a coward and a poor excuse for a person. Some will and some won't agree with your choice.

The truth to all of this is that you were scared. Scared to be alone, scared to leave this person who you have invested so much of your life with. The time that you've spent getting to know the loved ones associated with this person, you don’t want all of that time and attention to go to waste. You worry that you won’t find happiness, that every hurtful word they have said to you is true. That no one will ever be able to love the selfish person that you seem to think you are. You spent so much of your time in this relationship being scared and that is completely unlike you.

You have become this person you used to see walk through the halls of your high school. You became the person you promised yourself you would never become; you would never get so hung up over the wrong guy that you weren't yourself anymore. When you finally decided enough is enough, all of your fears began to come true.

Everyone judged you, you felt alone, lost, hurt. Every loved one you became friends with turned their backs on you and thought bad of you just as expected.

Now, you must hold yourself up. You must forget about all of these people who truly will not matter in a year.

You will move on, you will find love. You are not doomed to a life of unhappiness just because you finally did something for yourself.

It’s time to put away all of those feelings of self-doubt. To find a way out of what is making you the most unhappy.