The 21st century has brought with it all kinds of changes. Among those, personality styles have also shifted from being polar categories to being a spectrum of many different possibilities. Currently, you don't necessarily have to be a permanently happy or sad person; you can be sort of happy or slightly sad. Deriving from this, the extroversion scope has taken a paradoxical turn, bringing with it new type of person: the extroverted introvert.
People find these individuals hard to understand, but I thought that since I am an EI myself, I can give you some insight on the complicated mystery of the extroverted introvert.
1. Sometimes extroverted introverts are considered "people haters"
Occasionally, we seem really uncomfortable and distant around certain people. However, the real deal isn't that we hate people, it´s that we are really picky about who to trust and how much we are willing to open up.
2. Extroverted introverts are pretty quiet people
Extreme situations call for extreme measures: we will keep it to ourselves if interacting isn't critical, but if it is, then there is no time for silence!
3. We are of the few people that still appreciate our personal time
While it may be true that we do like to be around people, staying in and reading a book also sounds like exciting plans. We like to give ourselves time to reflect, think, and assess our decisions and goals.
4. It's not the time, it's the setting we are in
Extroverted introverts don't care about the time of day, but the place where an interaction takes place. Therefore, if you plan to take us to a crowded party... well, let's just say you better think twice about your invitation.
5. You ever heard of Tragic Transformation?
Extroverted introverts are like chameleons: when you least expect it, we can bloom and bring out an unexpected side of our personality. One second we can be quietly observing, but once you gain our trust, our tongues won't stop rolling.
6. We go for the deep, genuine conversations
Small talk and gossip are two things we find incredibly unattractive. If we are going to take our time to talk for a long time with someone, the topic of conversation has to be worth it.
7. We get labeled as extroverts or introverts in different situations
If we are around our close group of friends, we are considered crazy extroverts; however, when in a large group of strange people, a ghost would be louder than us!
8. Parties, concerts, and large social gatherings are definitely not our things
The larger the environment we are in, the more likely we are to leave early. Any type of social gathering that involves crowds makes us incredibly self-conscious and overwhelmed.
9. Getting ourselves out of our home can take time, but once we are out, it is all good
The fact that we don't like crowds doesn't mean we don't like people. Sometimes, the idea of interacting with others makes us resilient, but the key to leaving those worries behind is actually getting ourselves off of that front porch. Once we are out, the deed can begin!
10. We are overly sensitive
Our shifting reactions to life and other people have made us incredibly aware of our emotions. Even the tiniest action can have a great impact on us.
11. Our extreme emotions can be misinterpreted
When we are super happy, people often think we're flirting. On the other hand, when we are quiet and observant, some may think depression is taking over.
12. We are really good at shifting and pretending
Having lived on such a fashionable seesaw has its perks; we are aware of our surroundings and adapt to them swiftly. Ever need adaptation advice? Go straight to an extroverted introvert and you'll get a great answer.
Extroverted introverts are the perfect balance between love and hate, closeness and distance, and simple and complex. This new extroversion category gives a home to all those people that once were lost and didn't know who they were or where they belonged.
