Hello, my name is Alejandra. I’m a 19-year-old girl who for the first time in her life is writing for someone other than herself or a school teacher - class essays and all that stuff. Through my articles, I want to share the way I see things and the way I interpret my experiences. Therefore please feel welcomed to follow my weekly articles. Hopefully one day, I’ll make you think of something you never thought before, or share with me the same feeling towards something. Who knows? If I'm lucky enough, I might even make you laugh or cry.
Usually, I'm not the kind of person who likes to think about love, relationships and all that. For some reason, I am not the kind of girl who loves going to see romantic movies and sob at the end when the main guy and girl end up together after all the obstacles they had to overcome. Still, this week I couldn’t help the recurring thoughts about the role that love and relationships play in our life.
I firmly believe that society imposes a ton of norms about how our love life should be. For example, the simple idea of never getting married upsets some people and it might be even considered sad. In fact, it bothers me how some people would even see it as a kind of failure. As well as the belief that you’ll be happy, once you find that one person. But I honestly, feel all of that is just shit. I feel pretty confident saying that a relationship does not equal love. Yes, of course, there are relationships in which both sides love each other, but I also think that sometimes we just seek a relationship cause we fear being "alone," and we end up getting caught up in relationships that hurt us. Which can make us draw conclusions, such as, all men or women are the "same," even that we’re not "dating material." Ultimately, we end up believing that it’s our fault and there’s something wrong with us.
My point is, that it doesn’t have to be. How nice would it be if there was no pressure and that our love life had just little to no impact on who we think we are as a person, and it was just something that happens naturally, instead?
In my experience, I have never been the kind of girl who has a list of ex-boyfriends to talk about. But my dynamic with guys and myself is whole other story. Still, what I want to say is that we can take control of how our romantic life impacts us. It can make us grow and flourish, instead of pulling us down. Beause in the end, the only relationship that matters is the one you have with yourself.
