Everyday we encounter nature whether it is grass, leaves, or flowers. While walking or driving you cannot make it one block without seeing at least one tree. What is fascinating about trees is that they change throughout the year, every year. Their colors alter and they grow older day by day. Even though trees might look the same, there are so many types and they are all very different. Besides evolving throughout the years from the weather or what they were created to do, some trees have aspects to them that make them even more special. That special feature is when two people carve their names into one of those trees. There are probably thousands out there with a T+R or D+A with a corresponding year. Some are recent others may go back many years into a whole new era. Have you ever seen a tree with peoples initials in it yourself? Maybe you have even done it. Doesn't it make you think that love is truly out there? I mean a tree that lives for so long is able to experience the love of many couples through the initialing. It does present some mystery though. Maybe those relationships didn't work out. Yet maybe they did. That tree will always be a reminder of the good old days or just a memory that at that time was worth remembering since it no longer exists.
All Relationships hold a lot of meaning and memories even if they do not turn out the way people expected. Pictures, love letters, presents, and maybe a packet of salt from your first date. These are all memories that are cherished. Similar to trees, relationships can also change throughout the year or years. After a breakup what about all those good times saved? What about the flower you saved from your birthday that is now dried? It is not easy to just throw it all away. Yet, people still get into relationships even though this may be the outcome. Before getting into another relationship, people start to question their worth. They will sit in sorrow and feel like they were not good enough. They blame themselves and that is why they are not currently in a relationship or that is why their last one ended. We have all been there. People think about relationships and how bad they want to be in one. If you force it, it is less likely to happen. Once they get what they want, they are scared of messing it up. Will it be everything it is cracked up to be? What will I do if it is not? In the end, people want to be satisfied. People either fear that the pleasure might disappear, or people hope that it will intensify. Either way, it is not good enough. If we do not have it, we want it and if we have it, we want more. Then the whole cycle repeats, why does nobody like me? Am I not good enough? Is the world trying to hurt me? Stop right there. People may think that nobody will love them and that is because their life set them up to fail. However, what you think and what you believe controls all those bad feelings. Your mind is in control. The idea if should you follow your head or your heart which was talked about last week, has a new meaning now. Knowing that your brain which is inside your head is controlling those feeling of not being loved, why follow your brain instead of your heart now? Has it been misleading this whole time? This leads to having two paths. One path can lead to you controlling your own happiness or path two which makes negative feelings take over. Either way, there will still be ups and downs that one will have to face with forever changing events.
If love is like a rollercoaster, why do people stay? Many people may not want to deal with those hard times yet many people are so in love that they cannot help it. These good and bad times are not negative. They are natural in relationships. In order to get your Happily Ever After, you need to accept the good, the bad, and the ugly. Last week I ended my article with Happily Ever After. Does that exist? According to Disney it does. We both know that life is not a Disney movie. As much as I love Disney, Disney forgot to include one of the most beautiful things about love. They forgot the fact that love has it's own flaws. Love is not perfect. The flaws make love even more special. You have to love all of the person. We try to accept one another for our flaws and so it is right to do the same in a relationship. Each relationship is different and unique just like a tree and it is forever changing. Those two initials makeup the two people in the relationship and the two people in the relationship make up all the good and bad times. Being in love is not always easy, but it is definitely worth fighting for.
(True) Love,
S.L.B
