Do you compulsively plan your life? As annoying as it can be you can’t help but be “that” person. You’ve tried to change your behavior, but it’s ingrained in your DNA. You plan out everything. Life as a planner was difficult enough without the creation of Pinterest. Pinterest is your go-to source for future planning.

You have your entire wedding, baby shower, vacations and office design planned and waiting to come to fruition. You utilize an agenda or two, whether its paper, your cell phone or your tablet. You look at the calendar multiple times a day reviewing in your head everything you have to do that week. You make list after list, every day with checklists of daily items that need to be completed.

If you don’t get something done during the day, you feel guilty. Every hour in the day should be utilized. You want to be productive and accomplish all you can. You always feel like you should be doing something. But sometimes planning out every detail of your life is mentally tiring and you just want a break from your agenda, brain and to do list. But that’s not you.

Everyone has a role in their group of friends. Planning does not stop with your own life, but transcends to your role in your group of friends. You decide and plan almost all events for your group of friends. You decide what you’re going to do, how much it’s going to cost, who is going to drive, etc.

When you go on trips with your friends, you’re responsible for finding and booking the hotel, traveling logistics and time management. You’re always the one inviting others to do things and go places. This is your role because it’s naturally who you are and you fulfill the demands effortlessly. You actually like to take charge, have an agenda and coordinate events.

But once you’re “that” girl it’s hard to shed that role. Your friends automatically assume you’ll plan the event. They never offer to shoulder the burden and plan an outing for once. Most likely they don’t want that stress themselves, besides they know you’ll do it.

But sometimes you don’t want to be the planner anymore. You want to be the girl that gets invited to the party or out to dinner. You get sick of making decisions for everyone and want someone else to shoulder the responsibility of planning everything down to the last detail. You want to finally just be a guest, someone who can arrive and leave without any responsibility or worries. But that’s not you.

You were made to plan, to be organized and to have alternate plan A, B, and C. Planning eases the uncertainty of the future and gives you a sense of satisfaction. Therefore, you go on planning out your life, pinning your future, and orchestrating and hosting events for your friends. Besides, the anxiety of someone else potentially ruining or messing up potentially epic and memorable life events is too much to bear.

Maybe one day you’ll be able to relax and go with the flow, but until then you will dutifully continue fulfilling your role. It’s just who you are.