Life is not something we could be taught about. We can be warned, lectured and told about the experiences those older than us have gone through, but we can not truly learn about it. I know that with everyday that passes by, I am a little more wiser to the things around me. Based on my experiences I've earn to like and dislike certain things. I've learned what I agree with in life, what I disagree with and why. Most of these things can't be taught ; not in the way we learn formulas in math class or remember dates for history. These are lessons that change us, lessons that shape us. Lessons that we learn by actually being engaged and living. These are the things that cause us to change, not the people we surround ourselves with.
Change is one of those words that cause many people to cringe. Some might even feel a little tug at their hearts when they hear this word. But why? Why is change so bad? Why does change cause so much anxiety and stress? The answer is simple; people hate being uncomfortable. Change is different and therefore we are forced to find new routines, start over and switch up our lifestyles in a way. Friends might look at us and question the difference in us, others will call you out on it. But the only person that has a right to judge whether or not this change is good is you. Yes, you can hear your friends and family out, but the only person who can ask you "Is this a good change?" and have the right answer is you.
As much as our loved ones think they know us, no one knows you better than yourself. For only you have been around for every moment of your personal life experience. Judgments will be made but, at the end of the day, only we have the full stories. If you change in a way that has halted your growth in anyway; whether it be academic, spiritual, health or social, it is your job to fix that. Change is only good if it does not interfere with your well being and future. The minute this change begins to do just that, you need to ask yourself where it is coming from and what is causing it. If a friend is putting you in situations that cause you to experience negative things, and as a result you change for the worst, it is your personal duty to fix that not anyone else's. If the opposite occurs and people still judge and speak ill of you, but you know you are doing nothing wrong and every aspect of your life is in order, then the words of the masses do not matter. There will always be someone pointing at you. There will always be someone speaking bad of you and there will always be people who support your decisions both good and bad. It is up to us to decipher our own changes and not satisfy the world around us but rather the furute ahead of us.
