The Key To A Happy Life

The Key To A Happy Life

Happiness is a direction, not a place!

"How are you so positive all the time?"

The question I constantly get asked.

We all know that person in our lives that is always happy no matter what…. Literally no matter what. They could break their phone, wreck their car, loose their bf, and break their leg all within 20 minutes and they would still be super happy. Don’t you ever wonder how these people do it? Well, this article is a little insight to how you can begin to live that way too.

I am that person of my friend group. I am that person that could have a completely disastrous day, but I've still got a smile on my face and I’m still cracking jokes. I haven’t always lived this way, I had to train my brain. It’s a challenge and it doesn’t come easy but does anything in life?

One of the first things you have to begin looking for is the positives in EVERY situation.

I mean EVERY situation, even the worst ones have something good! (at least you are still alive…? ) Anything that comes your way, think about how it’s good. If you have a major assignment due tomorrow that you have not started, at least you’ll get it done tonight and turned in so you don’t have to worry about it any more! This step isn’t always easy, but so worth it! This step takes some time. You have to make sure to fight the urge to find the bad in situations, pull out the good! Keep yourself accountable and overtime you’re brain will start to automatically find the good in the situations.

Learn to let go! Sometimes in life, we hold grudges against things that have happened to us in the past. This is human nature, but you need to learn to let go of things. Think to yourself: Is this going to matter an hour ago? A day from now? A month from now? A year from now? If it won't matter sometime from now, don't let it bug you!

We all stress… constantly! Something we need to think about is, not stressing over the things we can’t control. We can’t control everything in our lives. We can’t control the line at Chick-Fil-A, so why stress over it? Just take a deep breath and enjoy life. Enjoy the song on the radio, or the company in your car. Enjoy the fact you get some free time to think. The meeting you're running late to will still happen even if you are 5 minutes late. If you just take a deep breath and not stress of the things you can’t control you will led a happier life. Don’t let the things we can’t control, ruin our mood or day! Just smile at the situation, and find the good in the situation! When you begin to get stressed think: “Can i control this?” If the answer is no, take a deep breath and relax. If the answer is yes, think to yourself what you can do to make the situation better for yourself, and then do it!!

“That's stupid, why would I do that?” We all have this friend…. Right? We all have one friend that says negative things and never looks for the good in situations. Don't let these people affect you, don't let what they say drag you down. Keep your head up. Don't argue with them either. Try to help them find the bright side of every situation! Help these people see the bright side in situations. If they don’t want to see the bright side, crack a joke for them! Don’t let other people bring you down.

“You’re so immature” Going back to not letting people bring you down, dont let what they say affect you! If wearing your hair in braids makes you happy, DO IT! You won't truly be happy in life until you do what you want to do ! I live my life doing what I want to do and that makes me happy all the time. Don’t worry about impressing anyone, if they like you they’ll accept who for who you are. Being who you truly are is a key to making yourself happy! What fun would it be to try to always have to lead a fake life… that won’t make you happy. If you want a different life, change! You are in control of your life, and if changing yourself makes you happier do it! No one else has to live your life except yourself, so do it however you want!

Show your teeth! They’re beautiful! SMILE!! Smiling is contagious! Even when your life is a complete mess, smile! It is a proven fact that smiling even when you aren’t actually happy releases endorphins in our body that makes us think we're happy. Smile when you're so mad, you wanna cry! It might feel super stupid but for some weird reason it helps! When I tend to get aggravated, mad or stress I just smile or crack a joke! This helps me be happy and go lucky all the time! Smiling all the time is key to a happier life.

One of the biggest things you need to do is Soak up the good moments! Live in the moment! Don’t think about tomorrow or all the work you need to do. Create the fun in the moment and hold on to these memories. These moments will be the ones you can think about to make you laugh when you wanna cry. Living in the moment is one of the biggest pieces of equipment that I can give you. Live on the edge! Do that crazy dance to make people laugh! No one is going to remember the person who sat in the chair, they’re going to remember the one who made them laugh! Be the life of the party. Allow yourself to be happy, and live life on the edge! Nothing is more important than letting yourself be happy! If you let yourself be happy, you will live a happier life. Be the person you want to be!

In the end, you are the only one that has to live your life. Make it worthwhile and help other people live a happier life. Let yourself be happy! Smile!

“Dont let the silly little things steal your happiness.”

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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Meditation Is Not A Perfect Practice, But It's Still Worth Your Time

You'll thank me later.


I began doing yoga a few years ago, and I instantly loved it. The combination of stretching, mental relaxation, and emotional release is amazing. It creates a sense of zen and peace in my life that I can use during the stress that comes from school, work, and everyday life. But the one part of yoga that I am not in love with is the meditation aspect.

I absolutely dread meditation. I do not know what it is, but I can never quite seem to get my mind to quiet down. No matter how hard I try, there is always a million thoughts running through my brain. "Did I finish that homework assignment?" "Am I breathing too loud? Can other people hear me?" I become so focused on other things happening around me that I just can't seem to calm down and relax.

But meditation is not about just clearing your mind and going completely blank. It is about focusing on a single thought, object, or intention and just allowing those emotions and feelings to overcome you. Focusing on one intention in your life allows you to become focused and re-centered. Meditation is not a set in stone practice, it is adaptable based on each person's needs.

There are seven general types of meditation: loving-kindness meditation, body scanning meditation, mindfulness meditation, breath awareness meditation, kundalini yoga, Zen meditation, and transcendentalism meditation. Each of these general types can be adapted to fit ones specific needs in that time. All seven of these meditations offer stress release options to help with daily stressors and inconveniences.

There is no perfect way to meditate. Meditation can also be as simple as just closing your eyes and simply breathing for a few seconds while focusing on one important thing in your life to help you remain grounded. There is no one set meditation type that works for all people. Some people enjoy all of the forms or even several of them, while others such as myself strictly enjoy the body scanning meditation.

The body scanning meditation focuses on scanning the body for areas of tension and to encourage the release of tension in that part of the body. Once the release occurs, the whole body can begin to relax even more. It usually starts by focusing on the toes and relaxing then moving up the legs, the torso the arms to the fingertips, and all the way through to the tip of the head.

My ideal meditation type is not for everyone. Playing around with the different types of meditations is the best way to find an ideal type of meditation that fits what the body needs. Unlike with most things, practice doesn't make perfect. Practicing the art of meditation just helps to refine the overall calm and zen that is felt.


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