The Key To A Happy Life

The Key To A Happy Life

Happiness is a direction, not a place!

"How are you so positive all the time?"

The question I constantly get asked.

We all know that person in our lives that is always happy no matter what…. Literally no matter what. They could break their phone, wreck their car, loose their bf, and break their leg all within 20 minutes and they would still be super happy. Don’t you ever wonder how these people do it? Well, this article is a little insight to how you can begin to live that way too.

I am that person of my friend group. I am that person that could have a completely disastrous day, but I've still got a smile on my face and I’m still cracking jokes. I haven’t always lived this way, I had to train my brain. It’s a challenge and it doesn’t come easy but does anything in life?

One of the first things you have to begin looking for is the positives in EVERY situation.

I mean EVERY situation, even the worst ones have something good! (at least you are still alive…? ) Anything that comes your way, think about how it’s good. If you have a major assignment due tomorrow that you have not started, at least you’ll get it done tonight and turned in so you don’t have to worry about it any more! This step isn’t always easy, but so worth it! This step takes some time. You have to make sure to fight the urge to find the bad in situations, pull out the good! Keep yourself accountable and overtime you’re brain will start to automatically find the good in the situations.

Learn to let go! Sometimes in life, we hold grudges against things that have happened to us in the past. This is human nature, but you need to learn to let go of things. Think to yourself: Is this going to matter an hour ago? A day from now? A month from now? A year from now? If it won't matter sometime from now, don't let it bug you!

We all stress… constantly! Something we need to think about is, not stressing over the things we can’t control. We can’t control everything in our lives. We can’t control the line at Chick-Fil-A, so why stress over it? Just take a deep breath and enjoy life. Enjoy the song on the radio, or the company in your car. Enjoy the fact you get some free time to think. The meeting you're running late to will still happen even if you are 5 minutes late. If you just take a deep breath and not stress of the things you can’t control you will led a happier life. Don’t let the things we can’t control, ruin our mood or day! Just smile at the situation, and find the good in the situation! When you begin to get stressed think: “Can i control this?” If the answer is no, take a deep breath and relax. If the answer is yes, think to yourself what you can do to make the situation better for yourself, and then do it!!

“That's stupid, why would I do that?” We all have this friend…. Right? We all have one friend that says negative things and never looks for the good in situations. Don't let these people affect you, don't let what they say drag you down. Keep your head up. Don't argue with them either. Try to help them find the bright side of every situation! Help these people see the bright side in situations. If they don’t want to see the bright side, crack a joke for them! Don’t let other people bring you down.

“You’re so immature” Going back to not letting people bring you down, dont let what they say affect you! If wearing your hair in braids makes you happy, DO IT! You won't truly be happy in life until you do what you want to do ! I live my life doing what I want to do and that makes me happy all the time. Don’t worry about impressing anyone, if they like you they’ll accept who for who you are. Being who you truly are is a key to making yourself happy! What fun would it be to try to always have to lead a fake life… that won’t make you happy. If you want a different life, change! You are in control of your life, and if changing yourself makes you happier do it! No one else has to live your life except yourself, so do it however you want!

Show your teeth! They’re beautiful! SMILE!! Smiling is contagious! Even when your life is a complete mess, smile! It is a proven fact that smiling even when you aren’t actually happy releases endorphins in our body that makes us think we're happy. Smile when you're so mad, you wanna cry! It might feel super stupid but for some weird reason it helps! When I tend to get aggravated, mad or stress I just smile or crack a joke! This helps me be happy and go lucky all the time! Smiling all the time is key to a happier life.

One of the biggest things you need to do is Soak up the good moments! Live in the moment! Don’t think about tomorrow or all the work you need to do. Create the fun in the moment and hold on to these memories. These moments will be the ones you can think about to make you laugh when you wanna cry. Living in the moment is one of the biggest pieces of equipment that I can give you. Live on the edge! Do that crazy dance to make people laugh! No one is going to remember the person who sat in the chair, they’re going to remember the one who made them laugh! Be the life of the party. Allow yourself to be happy, and live life on the edge! Nothing is more important than letting yourself be happy! If you let yourself be happy, you will live a happier life. Be the person you want to be!

In the end, you are the only one that has to live your life. Make it worthwhile and help other people live a happier life. Let yourself be happy! Smile!

“Dont let the silly little things steal your happiness.”

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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5 Tips To Help You Feel Better If You're Sick

A few helpful tips if there's a bug going around.


Not to brag, but I don't get sick very often, maybe once a year. When I do find myself a little under the weather, there's a few things I like to do for a faster recovery. I have no idea if any of these are 100% accurate, but I'd like to think they do. None of these will immediately make you feel better, but they'll help quicken the process.

Drink lots of water.

This one is a no-brainer, but it can be hard to do sometimes. I know when I'm sick, I definitely don't think about it. Water can help flush toxins out of your body, makes you hydrated, and can help you feel more awake and energized! If you're not a huge water drinker like I am, Tea also helps.

Stay home.

If you're sick, it's honestly better if you just take a day off and focus on feeling better. If you're worried about going to school or work, it's better that you don't spread anything. Let me just say, I'm fairly certain the last time I caught something was because someone behind me in a class was coughing through the entire lecture.


This one goes with the last point, but sleeping will help your immune system fight off any infections. It's good to take some time off and get any extra sleep you can.

Clean everything.

I like to wash all of my clothes and bed sheet, because they're what I wear and touch the most, especially my pillow cases. This will help get rid of some germs and stop them from spreading. It's also good to disinfect anything you touch often, like doorknobs and table surfaces.

Take medicine.

This one also sounds like a no brainer, but seriously if you expect to feel better soon you should be taking some sort of medicine. At the very least, it'll help with your symptoms, so you're not couching or sneezing every couple minutes.

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