The Key To A Happy Life

The Key To A Happy Life

Happiness is a direction, not a place!

"How are you so positive all the time?"

The question I constantly get asked.

We all know that person in our lives that is always happy no matter what…. Literally no matter what. They could break their phone, wreck their car, loose their bf, and break their leg all within 20 minutes and they would still be super happy. Don’t you ever wonder how these people do it? Well, this article is a little insight to how you can begin to live that way too.

I am that person of my friend group. I am that person that could have a completely disastrous day, but I've still got a smile on my face and I’m still cracking jokes. I haven’t always lived this way, I had to train my brain. It’s a challenge and it doesn’t come easy but does anything in life?

One of the first things you have to begin looking for is the positives in EVERY situation.

I mean EVERY situation, even the worst ones have something good! (at least you are still alive…? ) Anything that comes your way, think about how it’s good. If you have a major assignment due tomorrow that you have not started, at least you’ll get it done tonight and turned in so you don’t have to worry about it any more! This step isn’t always easy, but so worth it! This step takes some time. You have to make sure to fight the urge to find the bad in situations, pull out the good! Keep yourself accountable and overtime you’re brain will start to automatically find the good in the situations.

Learn to let go! Sometimes in life, we hold grudges against things that have happened to us in the past. This is human nature, but you need to learn to let go of things. Think to yourself: Is this going to matter an hour ago? A day from now? A month from now? A year from now? If it won't matter sometime from now, don't let it bug you!

We all stress… constantly! Something we need to think about is, not stressing over the things we can’t control. We can’t control everything in our lives. We can’t control the line at Chick-Fil-A, so why stress over it? Just take a deep breath and enjoy life. Enjoy the song on the radio, or the company in your car. Enjoy the fact you get some free time to think. The meeting you're running late to will still happen even if you are 5 minutes late. If you just take a deep breath and not stress of the things you can’t control you will led a happier life. Don’t let the things we can’t control, ruin our mood or day! Just smile at the situation, and find the good in the situation! When you begin to get stressed think: “Can i control this?” If the answer is no, take a deep breath and relax. If the answer is yes, think to yourself what you can do to make the situation better for yourself, and then do it!!

“That's stupid, why would I do that?” We all have this friend…. Right? We all have one friend that says negative things and never looks for the good in situations. Don't let these people affect you, don't let what they say drag you down. Keep your head up. Don't argue with them either. Try to help them find the bright side of every situation! Help these people see the bright side in situations. If they don’t want to see the bright side, crack a joke for them! Don’t let other people bring you down.

“You’re so immature” Going back to not letting people bring you down, dont let what they say affect you! If wearing your hair in braids makes you happy, DO IT! You won't truly be happy in life until you do what you want to do ! I live my life doing what I want to do and that makes me happy all the time. Don’t worry about impressing anyone, if they like you they’ll accept who for who you are. Being who you truly are is a key to making yourself happy! What fun would it be to try to always have to lead a fake life… that won’t make you happy. If you want a different life, change! You are in control of your life, and if changing yourself makes you happier do it! No one else has to live your life except yourself, so do it however you want!

Show your teeth! They’re beautiful! SMILE!! Smiling is contagious! Even when your life is a complete mess, smile! It is a proven fact that smiling even when you aren’t actually happy releases endorphins in our body that makes us think we're happy. Smile when you're so mad, you wanna cry! It might feel super stupid but for some weird reason it helps! When I tend to get aggravated, mad or stress I just smile or crack a joke! This helps me be happy and go lucky all the time! Smiling all the time is key to a happier life.

One of the biggest things you need to do is Soak up the good moments! Live in the moment! Don’t think about tomorrow or all the work you need to do. Create the fun in the moment and hold on to these memories. These moments will be the ones you can think about to make you laugh when you wanna cry. Living in the moment is one of the biggest pieces of equipment that I can give you. Live on the edge! Do that crazy dance to make people laugh! No one is going to remember the person who sat in the chair, they’re going to remember the one who made them laugh! Be the life of the party. Allow yourself to be happy, and live life on the edge! Nothing is more important than letting yourself be happy! If you let yourself be happy, you will live a happier life. Be the person you want to be!

In the end, you are the only one that has to live your life. Make it worthwhile and help other people live a happier life. Let yourself be happy! Smile!

“Dont let the silly little things steal your happiness.”

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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