There is nothing more defeating in life than heartbreak.
It's like someone drags you across hard, cold cement and you don't have the very strength in your body to help yourself and stop the pain.
It's that feeling you get when your heart has dropped all the way to the pit of your stomach and you suddenly feel full.
We all experience the feeling of heartbreak in our life. It's inevitable because people hurt people.
It's unfortunate that people who don't understand the repercussions of their actions do hurt and do cause these pains within someone.
These are the people who string someone along for their own personal enjoyment. They find someone who is a convenience for them per say to shower them with attention and give them everything they want until the person they actually want to become available to them.
They don't understand that the person they are using for convenience, someone who serves as a "temporary" significant other, is actually a person too and is someone who has feelings.
When they throw this temporary relationship aside, they don't even consider what they have done to this innocent individual.
They have ruined them inside and out. They have turned this person into someone who is no longer capable of feeling love, but rather heartbreak and mistrust in others.
It spirals, and this process continues on to the next innocent person who gets sucked into this very mess.
I wish our generation didn't have individuals who needed constant attention if someone wasn't giving it to them, and I wish that we could fully understand the concept of love and feeling it before we "claimed" we knew what it was.
The truth is, a majority of us don't know what love is, and that's why there is this constant battle with heartbreak.
We don't need to be people that force ourselves into something that we aren't necessarily ready for. Something you should always question before going into a relationship is whether or not you see yourself with this person long term.
I am biased in how I go about relationships and love because I don't throw myself out there continuously like some people I know, and I don't toss around "I love you" to the people I have had relationships with.
I have a hard time giving people sympathy when a relationship doesn't work out because if you look at it, there are reasons why: texting someone else inappropriately, texting multiple people while dating a significant other or even thoughts of hanging out with other people without mentioning it to the significant other.
If truly baffles me that there is no respect anymore for people who are in relationships. It's like everyone who is in one is apparently considered "fair game."
You wonder why people in our generation have such a hard time trusting one another?
You wonder why people in our generation have commitment issues?
You wonder why people in our generation are constantly jealous and maybe a bit controlling?
The answer is simply the people who don't have the boundaries or respect for other people and their relationships.
The ones who waltz in whenever they please for a few minutes of attention and instant gratification.
So for those who have felt heartbreak, whether it be from a broken relationship due to natural causes — it happens. Everything happens for a reason, and if it's meant to be it will be. Smile, pick yourself up and focus on who you are.
For those who have felt heartbreak whether it be from cheating and outsiders barging in — never blame yourself. You are not the problem. They are. You are not at fault. They are.
It's something we all have to learn from and pick ourselves up from.
Whatever you do — even if your heart is broken, maybe you think you should be getting more attention, don't perform actions that will ultimately break someone else's heart in the grand scheme of things.
It's time to eliminate heartbreak.
