I’m sure this isn’t an article you’d expect to be seeing. I mean, hell, as a child of divorce it’s not something I’d expect to see either - but bear with me.
Divorce sucks. There are no winners, only losers. A family is broken. Emotions are spent. Someone’s left, and everything’s changing.
At first.
Eventually things start to fix. You find that just because one thing ended, doesn’t mean the world did. Your emotions come back, and even though that person may not have, you find that you still have a family.
And even though that process is important, it’s not the importance of divorce.
The importance of divorce is this: no matter how hard it is, no matter how shaken up you may be, never lose sight of love.
It may hurt; correction, it will hurt. But that’s what counts. When something hurts, it means one of two things: 1. Something cut. It burned, whether that means physically or mentally depends on the situation, and 2. You will become a better person in the end.
As a certain pop singer may say: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”
Just because the person you thought was “the one” didn’t, doesn’t mean there aren’t people out there who love you. Your children do, your parents do, your siblings do, your friends, your relatives - people love you, and that’s not the kind of love you can take for granted. That’s not the kind of love you can throw around at will.
That’s the kind of love you need to respect, you need to earn, and you need to build on.
Divorce sucks, I know, but so many beautiful things can come out of it, and you are never bound to it. Divorce does not define who you are. It does not label you as unworthy or unloved. It does not keep you locked away, nor does it debilitate you in any way.
It’s important to always remember your worth, to never lose sight of your dreams, or of yourself and to always, ALWAYS, stay true to who you are and to those who stuck around you. Because sure, you eventually may start dating again, and maybe you even find “the one” for real - but remember, they held you at your worst, don’t throw them out at your best.
So remember this: we may not always know who we are, or what we are doing, but as long as we do not let our mistakes and our failures define who we are, we will never have any limits.
“Sometimes good things fall apart, so that better things can come together.” - Marilyn Monroe
