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The Hook-Up Culture: The New Monogamy

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In a world where everyone is an advertisement, TV commercial/show, accidental Google search, or mouse-click away from porn, sex (or some fantasy along those lines) is the first, second, and third thing on our minds for most of the day.The last report done in 1994 suggested that 54% of men think about sex daily or several times a day, but I can only guess that the 20 year interim involving the internet and television porn explosion has changed things a little.Remember that 'men think about sex every seven seconds' myth? Well, it's starting to hold some truth because of the instant access to sex and sexy things we have at all times.

I mean, look at all these apps dedicated to sex:

  1. Tinder. This application is a hand-held version of 'Hot or Not,' where you scroll through photos and profiles of the opposite sex and indicate whether you find the person sex-worthy with the swipe of your thumb. When the other person reciprocates interest, you can start chatting and eventually meet up. The best part of this application is that you don't have to know the potential sex-candidate. Your options are based on your location relative to theirs.
  2. Down (a.k.a Bang With Friends). Like Tinder except more narrow. You tag the Facebook friends you'd want to sleep with and you'll be notified if/when you are tagged by them, as well.
  3. Blendr. More explicitly about sex. Blendr matches you up with other singles in your postcode who are immediately good to go.
  4. Vibease. This one's for the ladies who are tired of getting harassed by all of the creeps on the aforementioned apps. Utilizing cutting edge teledildonics (yes, teledildonics!), the app syncs an erotic narrative to a vibrator that responds to the specifics of the story.
Not to mention that applications like Pure, the Dating Ring, Grouper, and others can be used for 'dating.' But, come on, who are we kidding? These dates almost inevitably lead to sex or something more serious. In reality, these 'dating' apps are just easy ways to make the whole 'one thing led to another' justification let us all feel less weird about porking perfect strangers.

Apparently, however, this casual “hey I just met you, and this is crazy, but you're on Tinder, so let's make babies” mentality is the contribution that the Millennial generation gets to make to the sexual revolution. To put things into perspective, Tinder has made over 50 Million matches out of 4.5 Billion total ratings, Down has over 100,000 installs, and Blendr, over 500,000, on the Android alone!
In fact, this collective attitude found in college students, and young adults more broadly, has spawned a unique label for our dating scene: “The Hook-Up Culture.”

Millennials are more open to new sexual experiences with new people than any other generation. In fact, we are having more sex than anyone since the 60s, and we have found ways to not have unwanted kids! And, what's better, Millennials now have unique avenues for making even casual encounters turn into lusty sex flings.
We can sext, send racy full-body photos, find each other at any time of day, and, if all else fails, booty call. The best part of this sexual revolution? We carry around the handy technology at the center of it in our pockets: our cellphones. We are constantly accessible and one “what's up” message away from a sexual encounter that would've otherwise required those two to be in the same room or long-distance correspondence. (Remember Pride and Prejudice? HA!)

Our private parts are becoming public parts. And that's not necessarily a bad thing.
  • The stigmas surrounding sex, sex work, homosexuality and fetishes are lessening
  • It's evolutionarily adaptive. Female chimpanzees and the females of other animals have sex many times, and with many males before having a single baby. May the fittest sperm win it, right?
  • People are more willing to explore their sexuality rather than repressing or feeling ashamed of it
  • As I've written before, Research suggests watching porn and having sex are actually great things for your health and happiness
In what other era of time could I meet a girl on the street, gather some intangible data on how to contact her directly regardless of distance, and then have sex with an extremely low chance of contracting any STDs or having a baby. This combination is the perfect sexual storm. What else could make things easier? (Besides nudism becoming a universal trend)

As a recent Rolling Stone article points out, this hook-up culture breeds a new kind of monogamy where two people commit to a primary relationship, and maybe even live together, but agree to sleep with other people on the side, as well.

I love how Rolling Stone expresses this new sexual arrangement: “Millennials are pioneers in their own right, navigating a wide-open sexual terrain that no previous generation has encountered – one with more opportunity, but also more ambiguity.”

That's right, Millennials! Screw those other pioneers who sailed across the Atlantic or landed on the Moon, we are exploring dimensions of sexuality Hugh Hefner could only dream about. We are reaching peaks of pleasure that dwarf Mt. Everest! And all from the comfort of a warm bed.

Damn, it feels good to be a Millennial.
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