I've been told everyone has had a guy in their life who just CAN NOT make up his mind about being interested in you or not, am I right ladies? Well, this is new for me. Ive only had one "real" boyfriend in my life and that was in high school...and we all know how high school relationships are...they're a joke, or at least mine was.This is the first guy I have actually been attracted to since high school. I know, it's been a while! I am looking for anything serious but I don't think he gets that or even knows that. So how do I tell if he is attracted/interested in me as well? Let me give you an over view of how I see things.
I constantly ask myself, is he flirting with me? Or his he just being nice? This is the hardest thing for us girls to tell the difference between. He could just have a friendly flirtatious personality because I sure do. But its the little things he does that scream "no he is flirting with you 100%". BUT then I get ignored for 2 weeks at a time. What is that!?!? Did I do or say something that pissed him off? Oh well, maybe he isn't interested in me. Ok thats fine just tell me you aren't interested in me like that and well move on and be friends. But then the next weekend he'll be "all over me".
Everything feels so natural between us, I don't have to try to be someone I am not and the conversations come so easy. I can be 110% myself and not fear that he will think I'm a weirdo. I truly believe he likes the way I am; how clumsy I am, the way I help people around me, the way I can screw something up and laugh about it. I know he enjoys everything about me, he'd be a fool not to. Then theres those times where he makes me all nervous so then I have no idea how to act around him. Trust me he knows that and he eats it up. Again, he could be just be being friendly. Don't get me wrong I love the attention, but when someone shows they're interested one minute and then not the next, well that HAS to be the most confusing thing for us girls to understand. My best friend tells me "just forget about him he's not worth my time"...but when she lives 356 miles away from me well, she doesn't see the interaction, so she doesn't really get it.
But where do I go from here? Do I let him play his little game and pretend I do not notice? Do I continue to sit here wondering if he is attracted to me as well? Or should I grow up and just ask him? If I ask him there is always that fear of rejection, which sucks but maybe thats what is needed. I've never experienced something like this with a guy so I don't really know how to go about it or even what to expect. Everyone is telling me how to handle it and thats great but I don't want to listen to their advice. So....maybe I'll ask him, maybe I won't. Perhaps I continue being flirtatious with him and just forget about him ever possibly being interested in me. One thing I know is that it sure is nice having him as my friend and that I do not want to lose.
