Hello,

I don’t know the details of what you are going through, but I’m grateful you clicked on this article; we can walk through this together! I pray that you may find comfort in the words that follow, and feel the Lord’s loving arms around you in your time of sorrow.

Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines grief as: deep sorrow, especially caused by someone’s death. I’m sure you know someone who has gone through something similar and hurt for them. It is totally different when you are the person grieving, isn’t it? Sure, you may have had your feelings hurt, or your heart broken, but this feeling that you have right now, is like no other. As I write this, you should know, that I am walking this battle of sorrow beside you.

I am telling you, IT IS OK TO GRIEVE! In fact, you need to allow your body to do so. So, if you need to scream, cry, lay in bed and question A LOT of things, then do it. It's 100 percent OK! You can even ask God, why this is happening, and ask him to guide you through this process. Remember: Ecclesiastes 3:1, “There is a time for everything, and a season for everything under the heavens.”

God has a plan and purpose for every single one of us on this earth, though we may question it at times. We need to stay firm in our faith and keep looking to the Lord for guidance. Yes, you are probably exhausted from all of the crying, you’re helping with funeral preparations, and busy with hustle and bustle of family and friends coming and going. When all is said and done, and you finally have some quiet moments to yourself, that is when the full spectrum of grief can hit you like a freight train. This is when you need the Lord’s guidance and comfort the most.

It is in these moments that you may feel like your stomach is in your throat. You have that realization that your loved one is gone. You’ll constantly play back the last conversation you had, read the last texts that they sent you, picture the last hug you got, and the last, “I love you” you heard. These moments will be difficult, but allow yourself to have them. You may feel like surpassing these memories because the emotions are too raw, but let your loved one’s legacy live on. Chances are there are some little ones that didn’t get a chance to know the person, so let those memories live on. They are going to get you through the darkest of times.

During these moments of true struggle, it is important that you maintain your sense of faith, remembering that the Lord is walking along side you through this experience. He doesn’t send his soldiers into battle without fully equipping them with the tools they need to get through it.

I receive peace in knowing that my God is guiding me through this uncharted territory and I hope that you are feeling that peace as well. May you also find peace in knowing that friends and family are supporting you through this. This isn’t to say there aren’t going to be hard days, because there will be, however, there will be good days, too. I will leave you with a few Bible verses that have helped me get through this difficult time.

Isaiah 43:2: "When you go through deep waters, I will be with you."

Psalm 61:2: "When my heart is overwhelmed lead me to the rock that is higher than I."

Romans 8:18: "What we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory He will reveal to us later."

Psalm 34:19: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed."

I hope and pray that this article has brought you a little bit of peace. May you continue to lift your heartache and pain to the Lord and pray for guidance and comfort from Him.