I’ve never really been the girl who hung out with all the guys and had a million guy friends. In high school, I had my four girlfriends and that was all I needed. Now that my first year of college is over and I’m entering into sophomore year, I realize the benefits of having guy friends. It took a while to get used to the fact that I actually had guys who I could be open and honest with.
Senior year our friend group finally decided to let some guys hang out with us. Those guys are still my friends today, but they all go to different universities so I don’t get to see them as much (even though it's summer, everyone is super busy with jobs and class). When they came into our group it was a weird adjustment. We didn’t really care if they heard our weird conversations (most of the time they talked with us), but we didn’t tell them our secrets or really tell them anything personal. Some of my other friends may have been closer to them and be able to tell them anything, but I couldn’t and still can’t.
So now it’s the first summer after college and I actually have a couple of good guy friends. I never really knew the value these types of friendships could bring until now. Guy friends are notorious for being the guys that like the girl but can’t have the girl and vice versa; however, my guy friends are NOT like this. They all support my relationship because they are also friends with my boyfriend.
They have taught me a lot and I really think guys can give great advice. I go to my guy friends to talk some sense into me when I’m being crazy, give me encouragement when something is bothering me, and whenever I’m bored I know there is always someone to talk to. Not only are they great at just being there for me, but they provide new perspectives on really anything.
What's also really great is the fact that they know that I'm always there for them too. I don't just go to them, they come to me as well. It's always good when your girlfriends come to you, but when guys come to you for advice it means they really value what you say and are willing to listen. When you have guy friends you get to see the other side of them. There's the wall they put up when they're out around other people, but with you, the walls come down. It's a really cool thing honestly. Even if those walls don't come completely down, it's still good to know they can relax around you and be more themselves.
Guy friends will stick up for you, be a call or text away, and will always listen no matter what. If you're lucky enough to have great guy friends, hang on to them because it's something special. Thanks to all the guy friends out there...keep on keeping on.
