To the girl still holding on,
Now I'm no more of an expert on heartbreak than any other girl who's been in love and watched it all come crashing down. I've never been one who was able to just up and walk away from someone I've put some much time into. So this letter is as much to you who are still holding on as it is to the old me who just wouldn't let go, even though she knew it was time.
Losing someone that so connected to you is hard. Whether or not it was your idea to end the relationship doesn't help. Letting go is the hardest part of healing no matter what ended the relationship. I'm not gonna tell you that this will be something easy to do or something you will want to do at all but once you do so many more doors will open for you... I've been told a million times "the love of your life comes after the mistake of your life" but you don't even have to look as the other person being the mistake, you can look at it as how long you stayed as being the mistake. More likely than not things didn't one day change and you decided you didn't wanna be together anymore, it was a gradual decline you've seen coming for a little while. The mistake is how long you prolonged the inevitable, just because you were hoping things would somehow change. You weren't naive and you weren't stupid, you were in love and that's okay but now you have to accept it's over and stop breaking your own heart
Letting go may be hard but holding on is even harder, it may not look like it right now but it is. You're holding on to hope that you will rekindle whatever you had and that may happen but you need to give the situation some time before trying it again, after all, you ended things for a reason. I promise you just because you miss them doesn't mean it's worth getting back together. Sometimes it's not even worth getting back together at all whether you two have changed or not. Sometimes walking away opens your eyes to just how happy you could be without them. Everything happens in life for a reason and maybe this chapter of your life ending leaves room for another completely different chapter to open and change your whole life.
I want you to know that if you weren't happy in the relationship you were in you should be proud of yourself. It takes a lot of courage to say enough is enough and be okay with starting over. Choosing your own happiness over anything else is a less most of need to learn and you've done it. But please, continue to choose your happiness over others and make sure the next step is what you want to do, not anyone else. Things will work out in the end and you'll see the reason behind this goodbye, just gotta keep looking..
