To The Girl Who Thought She Had Her Love Life Figured Out

To The Girl Who Thought She Had Her Love Life Figured Out

It's okay to not have it all figured out.

Love and life are both hard to understand. I always thought that by my senior year of college I would have it all figured out.

I thought I would have found the perfect guy and know exactly where I was going to be once graduation rolled around. I thought I would have unintentionally gotten my MRS degree while simultaneously getting my college degree and life would just work itself out and I would be completely ready for graduation. I was wrong, and that's okay. Sometimes life doesn't go as planned.

Actually, life almost never goes as planned. I'm here to say, to the girls who also thought they had it figured out that it's okay.

it's okay that you don't have everything figured out. You have time to get your own life under control before you need to even begin thinking about adding another human being to it. Graduating and earning your college degree is far more important than worrying about anything else. That is something you are doing for yourself and to better your future.

It's okay that those college boyfriends didn't work out. They were in your life to teach you lessons and there is no need to rush into your next relationship. Let your senior year be the year of you. Find yourself this year and don't worry about other people. Senior year of college is the year to focus on school, yourself and enjoying the last moments before adulthood overwhelms you for the rest of your life.

It's okay to stop looking for that significant other. They will come into your life when they are supposed to, but for now, worry about yourself. there is a reason why those previous boyfriends weren't your prince charming. Whether they aren't mature enough for a serious relationship or simply just weren't the right one; don't stress about it.

Moral of the story is, it's okay to not have it all figured out. Enjoy your early 20's; a time when you're supposed to be focusing on yourself. Enjoy being single and meeting new people. Most of all, enjoy your own time and be a free-spirit while you can. Stop stressing out about finding that perfect guy or knowing where you're going to be in five years.

It's going to work out just the way it's supposed to. So, to the girl who's stressing out about her future, relax and enjoy the uncertainty.

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To My Past Self Before I Graduate From College: Soon Enough It Will All Work Out

Hang in there, kid, you've got this!

Dear 2016 me,

I remember exactly how you felt like it was yesterday. You’re trying your best to keep it together, but in reality, you’re barely holding on. Stress is hitting you from all sides and all you want to do is sleep. You’re confused about everything in your life, especially your future.

You’re not sure what you’re going to do after graduation. You aren’t even sure that you’ll make it very far past graduation. I know how you feel and I sympathize with you.

But I’m here to tell you not to give up.

I know that it may seem like your future is going to be full of stress, but that’s not necessarily the case. Sure, the first few months after graduation will be tiring and monotonous as you try to find the energy to apply for jobs while getting your anxiety under control, but that’s just the first few months.

After that, you will find a job that you will love more than anything: substitute teaching. You’ll make connections at work and gain more confidence than you could ever imagine. It will lead you towards a new career path that you had ruled out for many years. But in order to get there, you need to get your bachelor’s degree, so finish your homework and don’t procrastinate on any of your projects.

I know another big concern is the relationships in your life. The fear that you will lose the important people in your life is one that will continue to plague you. That being said, try not to worry too much about that. There are people out there who genuinely care for you, no matter what the voices in your head are saying. Your family especially loves you. You may think that they will be disappointed in the effort you’re providing, but really, they couldn’t be more proud of you!

You’re about to finish college in four years, which is something not many can say. Just know that many people in your life are happy for you.

Of course, this isn’t to say that your problems aren’t worth worrying over. Life is full of stressors and you’ve got a lot hitting you in the face right now. Just try not to worry about them too much in the present moment, okay?

Focus on your studies and whatever else you need to do to graduate. The rest of your worries are problems you can tackle afterward and there will be plenty of time to tackle them after you’ve graduated. Also, try not to lose sleep over these problems. They may suck, but they’re not worth hurting yourself over.

I know you probably won’t listen to me about that last part, but seriously. All of the problems you’re facing right now will not be the problems that will plague you in the future. Worry about one thing at a time, because soon enough you will have everything figured out.

Also, I’m proud of how far you’ve come.


2018 me.

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5 Signs You're Completely Over Spring Semester

You can watch the work pile up and feel no fear.

Who else is completely over school? Spring semester drags on every year, but this year I have a major case of senioritis. And I thought senioritis was bad in high school! Here are five ways to tell you're so done with college.

1. You let ALL of your work pile up until the last minute.

2. You can watch the work pile up and feel no fear.

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