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To The Girl Who Thinks She's Not "Good Enough".

I've been there before; you're more than "good enough."

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To The Girl Who Thinks She's Not "Good Enough".

Hey you,

I get it, I have been in your position plenty of times. Thoughts would constantly run through my head, such as, "I'm not pretty enough for him" or "I look terrible; I can't go out like this." Usually these thoughts would come up right after you find out that the guy you like doesn't like you back. Trust me, there is more to you than what meets the eye.

It's not because you didn't "put out." Nowadays, there is this huge emphasis on sleeping with someone to get them to like you. It doesn't work that way; no guy will start to like you just because you "put out." Any guy worth being with will respect what you want, wait and enjoy just hanging out with you. Sex is just a small part of a healthy and worthwhile relationship. If you felt that you had to have sex with him in order for him to give you attention, he is not the right guy.

You are pretty enough. Don't let any guy let you think that you aren't as beautiful as you truly are. Just because someone doesn't like you, or you aren't their "type," this in no way means that you aren't another guy's "type." Every time you look in the mirror, tell yourself that you are beautiful. Remind yourself that no guy could ever make you feel as good as you can. When your friends and family say that you are beautiful, gorgeous or stunning, they aren't just saying it to boost your confidence, they meant it.

Someone is waiting for you. One guy. He is not the only guy, or, as my lovely sister would say in times like this, "There are plenty of fish in the sea." He is one guy, but there is another guy out there who is waiting for you. I am a hopeless romantic who believes that everyone has a soulmate, and sometimes we lose sight of that. You're young; chances are you have yet to meet the guy that will appreciate you — all of you. One day, you're going to forget about that stupid crush because you're finally with the right guy.

Your "quirks" are cute. Sometimes we do things that others find weird. I have to chew on an even number, use my right side more and all of my music must be on an even number. Just because that boy you liked thinks your "quirks" are weird, doesn't mean they are. One day, you're going to find a guy who loves them and will even "pick" on them out of love. My friends and family find it hilarious to put the volume on an odd number and watch me fight with them, when it inevitably ends on an even number. I know that when I find the right guy, he will appreciate my "quirks" as much as I live by them. So who cares if you need to shower twice a day, or turn off your alarm three times before you actually wake up? They are a part of you and will make one guy fall madly in love with you.

You are "good enough." One thing I hate more than anything is when someone truly believes they are not good enough because another person made them feel that way. Whose right is it to make another person feel like they aren't good enough? It is no one's. So remember this — just because some guy isn't head-over-heels for you, doesn't mean that you aren't good enough for them. You're probably too good for him.

So you,

Don't let some guy make you think you aren't good enough; chances are you're too good for him and that initiates him. I have had my fair shares of "once upon a times" and "Saturday night soulmates," and to this day I still think I am good enough. No one knows your worth more than you do; don't let anyone else's opinion bring your confidence down. One day, some guy will be blown away by you, and when that day comes, I hope you realize that you were good enough this whole time, you were just searching for the wrong person.

Sincerely,

The girl who once thought she wasn't "good enough."

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