To The Girl Who Skipped The Party Stage, And The Girl Who Didn't

To The Girl Who Skipped The Party Stage, And The Girl Who Didn't

You're both missing the point.

To the girl who skipped the party stage and the girl who didn't:

I wanna tell you a story because I think we've created these labels and categories and somehow shoved ourselves and others into them based on our behavior and social choices.

And that's cool, but it's not helping anyone.

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When I was in college, I fit into both these categories at one point. For a few months, I tried living both simultaneously if you can imagine it. My freshman year, I danced on table tops, laughed til 3 a.m. with girls I hardly knew, ordered pizza at 4 a.m., and woke up the next day trying to piece together the night. At times, I drank so much that I wanted nothing more than to hide my face, crawl under a rock, and pay rent to the rock troll until the end of the century.

Maybe you've been there, maybe not.

Then I realized I wanted to pull my life together and be known as a good girl but couldn't quite figure out how to do that. I wanted something more than hangovers but couldn't shake the FOMO. Several times, I lied to cover my own butt and then had to bashfully admit to it later. I went to frat parties, danced with random boys, stumbled home, and then tried to protect my reputation as the girl who could hold it all together.

I lived a double life for several months because I wanted to make everybody happy.

Actually, one time, I decided that it was better to drink too much wine than too much hard liquor and I settled for that life... because I wanted people to like me but I didn't wanna be ratchet. So there's that.

Ugh. Isn't it crazy what we do to look one way but live another? But you know when and how I experienced freedom from that double life? I opened up about it. I called out the little monster for what it was. Then I tried to deny it again...but then I finally let myself just sit in it.

No, I didn't fix anything in 30 seconds. Actually, I didn't believe I needed "fixing" but instead that I needed faith in who I was designed to be. Slowly, I felt an earth-shattering shift in my desires because, hi, Jesus.

And when I eventually lost the desire to party altogether, I was not any more qualified or better than the girl who didn't.

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So if you're the party girl, I'm not here to tell you to clean up your life. I am here to tell you to let your little monsters out of the dark corner and into the Light. Look deeper. Why do you party? Because it brings you complete and total fulfillment? Or because the world around you says you should and presents it as the only good option?

And if you're not the party girl, I'm not here to tell you you've made it, either. You might have little ugly monsters hiding in your heart, too. None of us are better than the other. You may be better off without the toxins your bodies and the pressure partying puts on your heart, but never better than. I challenge you, too. Why are you not partying? Is it to uphold an image or reputation? Or because you've genuinely found freedom from the peer pressure and placed your identity in something more?

You see, whether you're the fun and flirty girl dancing on tabletops or the lonely girl feeling like the biggest loser alone on Friday night, freedom is for you, too. And there's always more to the story because you weren't made to fit into a category just because college says the only two options are to:

1. Party.

2. Not party.

I'd like to argue there's a better party than the pity party and the frat party. And you're invited to it regardless of your past or present party status. It's a party that peels off the sticky labels the world has slapped on you. It's a party that switches your entire position and identity from death to life, dark to light, and pride to purpose. It's a party orchestrated by the Creator Himself simply because He loves you when you're a hot mess and when you're all primped and poised.

And maybe you just need to RSVP to that party.

So put on your big girl pants and your party hat, crack open a window, pull that dang door open, let light the Light in, and step into who you were made to be -- even if you're shaking with wobbly knees.

It's worth it. Cross my heart.

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I Drank Lemon Water For A Week And Here's What Happened

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I've never been a fan of lemon in my water, I always refuse it at restaurants. You definitely have to find your sweet spot in lemon to water ratio, in what tastes good to you. I personally cut the lemon into quarters and use on quarter per day. I put the lemon quarter in the bottle and then continuously fill with water throughout the day. I still get the yummy lemon flavor all day because I do not squeeze the lemon. It took about a bottle or two to get used to the lemon flavor, and now I just crave it.

Lemon water is supposed to speed up your metabolism. Obviously, a week is not long enough to tell if this is fact or fiction but I have noticed a change in appetite. I feel like I do not get hungry as often as I did before. I saw this effect within 24-48 hours of starting the experiment. This seems opposite to a fast metabolism but we'll see.

I definitely feel more hydrated with lemon water. I drink a lot of water anyways, about 80 oz a day but for some reason with the lemon, it makes me feel better. I don't feel as sluggish, I'm not getting hot as easily, and my skin feels amazing. I am slightly skeptical though because the lemon almost makes my tongue dry requiring me to drink more water, so I have upped my intake by about 20oz. I'm unsure if the hydration is due to the extra water, the lemon, or both!

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20 Disney And Pixar Characters And The College Majors They'd Almost Certainly Have

Disney characters in college is always fun to imagine.


Disney and Pixar movies are life. I have been watching them for over fifteen years. I love them, and I get just as excited as little kids when a new one is announced. Using animated characters to describe college majors was very fun, and I love when characters are used for articles like this, so I wanted to add to it.

1. Belle - English


She always has her nose buried in a book. There is no other major for Belle.

2. Mulan - Women's Studies


Not only does she go to war for her father, she saves all of China. She is a powerful woman who won't take no for an answer.

3. Jasmine - International Business


When she is on the magic carpet ride, she is amazed. Plus, she wants out of the castle. This will allow her to travel and see the world, as she maintains her princess duties.

4. Mike Wazowski - Engineering


Mike was always behind the scene. He is incredible smart and takes care of the internal issues within companies.

5. Snow White - Veterinarian Studies


She has the power to call animals with her voice. Animals trust her, and she would take care of them.

6. Honey Lemon - Chemistry


Honey Lemon is one of the purest animated characters ever. She is a total science badass. Plus, she personalizes every one of her experiments to be colorful and represent her.

7. Buzz Lightyear - Aviation 


He has his own built-in wings. He's basically a toy plane and a pilot wrapped up all in one.

8. Ariel - Marine Biology


Ariel has made many marine life friends throughout her years. Plus, she would never hurt a fly.

9. Tiana - Culinary Arts


Tiana makes some bomb beignets and opens her own restaurant. It's her dream and she found her path.

10. Rapunzel - Fine Arts


Rapunzel's whole tower is covered in extravagant murals. Plus, they're beautiful. She would be a very successful painter.

11. Elsa - Vocal Performance


Elsa's voice is amazing. Idina Menzel went hard when recording 'Let it Go.' Elsa could bring an entire audience to their feet and give them chills.

12. Hercules - Exercise Science


Hercules starts off as this scrawny teen and develops into this buff man. He would be an excellent personal trainer and keep people motivated to get fit.

13. Rafiki - Philosophy


Rafiki has some amazingly deep conversations with Simba. He could become a professor and teach this practice.

14. Judy Hopps and Nick Wild - Criminal Justice


These characters are set on saving Zootopia from crime and they take pride in their work.

15. Mufasa - Early Childhood Education


Mufasa is a very caring character and he would be friends with all of his students. He would want all his students to excel and he'd do everything he could to help them.

16. Jane - Anthropology


Jane is very patient with Tarzan and she teaches him social and human skills. She would be like that if she taught classes, too.

17. Pocahontas - Political Science


Pocahontas doesn't want to marry a man in her tribe, and she doesn't want her tribe to hurt the settlers. She would be able to keep the peace between two opposing parties.

18. Cruella de Vil - Fashion Design


Cruella de Vil may be evil, but she had some great fashion sense. The Dalmatian coat would have matched her hair and she would really make it work on Project Runway.

19. Fix-it-Felix - Architecture


Felix can fix any building. He would have a very clean eye for the buildings he would build.

20. Li Shang - National Security


Shang could lead an army to war and protect the nation's borders.

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