From The Girl Who Didn't Skip The Party Stage

From The Girl Who Didn't Skip The Party Stage

A response to "From The Girl Who Skipped The Party Stage."

“I've learned one thing, and that's to quit worrying about stupid things. You have four years to be irresponsible here, relax. Work is for people with jobs. You'll never remember class time, but you'll remember the time you wasted hanging out with your friends. So stay out late. Go out with your friends on a Tuesday when you have a paper due on Wednesday. Spend money you don't have. Drink 'til sunrise. The work never ends, but college does...” - Tom Petty

I did not skip the party stage because I am 21, young, and eager to live life to the absolute fullest. I didn't skip the party stage because I understand that I will never be as young as I am at this moment. I didn't skip the party stage because I know that the only thing in life that is irreplaceable are experiences, not things.

To the girl who skipped the party stage, this is why you're missing out. While you're at home on a Friday night, you're missing out on great conversations, experiences, and people you will never have the chance to meet. Let me be clear in that you do not have to drink or do drugs to have fun. Going to a party is about having a good time with your friends, not spinning out of control. Now, I understand that not everyone is a social butterfly like myself. However, I do not support putting other women down because of their personal choices. The article "From The Girl Who Skipped The Party Stage" states that girls shouldn't have one night stands. While I personally do not believe in it, slut-shaming other women for their choices does not make you any better. All girls are human and go much deeper than the generalization of the life you've assumed they lead.

Although I didn't skip the party, I am not simply just a "partier" and here is why:

When you see me in the bathroom at the party, you'll probably notice I'm wearing a tight shirt and that I put more than five minutes into choosing my outfit. If we talk, you'll discover that I'm in a sorority and most likely stereotype me into the typical "easy party girl" based on the fact that I'm out on a Wednesday night and I have class in the morning.

But I am also the girl that works two jobs, stays active, and gets good grades. I am the girl that enjoys reading books in a coffee shop, outdoors, road trips, and has a travel list longer than a textbook. I am the girl who is always up for anything as long as good company is involved.

I am the girl that will stay in to bake brownies and watch terrible rom-coms all night. I am the girl that will drive 20 minutes just to get a slice of pizza... Who am I kidding, an entire pizza. I am the girl you can call the night before to go an adventure the next morning. I am the girl that speaks more than one language because I understand that peace is through understanding. I am the girl you can call at 4 a.m. to get you out of a bad situation or vent about a petty issue.

If you weren't so quick to judge me you would know that I didn't go home with the boy talking to me all night because he is my good friend. The next morning, I woke up and looked at pictures from the night before that I will laugh about for the rest of my life. My week-long typical college spring break gave me great memories and even greater friends. The random girls I was dancing with at a party ended up being my future roommates. Being in Greek life has taught me more about myself than I ever could have imagined.

While I understand that not everyone is the same, just because I like to go out does not mean that is all I live for or that I am less than you.

I didn't skip the party stage but that does not define me.

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Fiction On Odyssey: Vacancy

"I know it’s empty just by looking at it."

The house shimmers in between thin trees, weaving in and out of mist, playing tricks on me. Settling against a tree trunk, my shoulder blades dig into the bark. The shadows here soothe me. The sun’s out, oddly enough, encircling the house in a halo of light. Sun and fog, making my head blurry. Damn it all.

I know it’s empty just by looking at it. Broken windows as wary eyes, the door off its hinges, a gray mouth with chipped teeth. The roof dips, looming over it; my past. The shingles look soft, like if I were to get up onto the roof and touch them, I’d sink in. It’d all fall out from underneath me. Make it disappear. Please.

No sign of the catmint or lavender my mother tended to for so long. It’s just gnarled roots and weeds now. The absent hum of bees is jarring. Each step I take echoes across the clearing, a sharp crunch of leaves underfoot. I stop walking on the edge of the shadows.

My chest is tight. Tears prick my eyes but I can’t look away from it. I can’t stop searching the windows in the hope that one of them will be here. The three years haven’t cleared my memory as much as I wanted them to.

It was the middle of the night when I left, closer to dawn than dusk, a flimsy rucksack over my shoulder. I still had my knife then.

The main room was mostly dark. Some nights my mother forgot to close the curtains all of the way, so there were pockets of moonlight scattered around. Crossing the room, I made for the door, trying to ignore the couch, where I knew she was sleeping. Just as I got to the main door, hand on the knob, I turned to look. Couldn’t help it.

The way she slept always reminded me of a kid: crunched up into a ball, a ratty blanket covered her entire body, pulled right up to her pointy chin. Her face was wiped of the stress it wore during the day and glowed in a sliver of moonlight. She looked happy, for once. Peaceful. I left her there. That was our goodbye.

Last time I saw my father? A few days before that, maybe? I don’t know. Doesn’t matter. Sometimes I wish it did.

Now, I stand in front of this house, knowing that they have to be gone but I can barely get myself to move. Hesitation. Pause. Why? What do I have to feel guilty about when it comes to ghosts?

Swallowing around the lump in my throat, I step into the sunlight. It spreads across my back, caresses the top of my head. The fog settles. I keep going.

My feet leave behind soggy footprints in the dewy grass. I’m at the door, barreling through it, the noise of my movement and the creaky house so much better than the quiet. I’m out of breath, heart going in my chest, but it’s because I’m afraid. Dreading this.

I spin, getting a grip, seeing the emptiness of it. The couch: gone, the dining set missing two of its chairs, one of them toppled on its side, lacking a leg. The curtains are gone, someone must have stolen them, so the sunlight streams in, making square pools of it on the floor. Dust gets caught in my throat and drifts in the air, twinkling in the light.

Home. I’m here.


My heart jolts; a voice I barely recognize, ringing with age.

I turn.

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The 10 Most Iconic Theme Songs From Your Childhood

If you grew up in the 2000s, that is

Are you ready kids? If you responded "Aye aye, Captain," you are allowed to continue reading.

Growing up in the 2000s was a beautiful mix of new technology and the "good ol' days". Almost none of us had smartphones until high school, and computers were far too slow to warrant spending a day staring at them.

So, naturally, we just watched a lot of TV.

Here are what I see as the most iconic theme songs from 2000s kids shows. If you think I'm wrong, I welcome you to fight me in the comments.

1. Spongebob Squarepants

Of course, Spongebob had to win. If you ask the question "Who lives in a pineapple under the sea?" to someone in my age group, there's probably a 94% chance they'll respond correctly. Long live Spongebob.

2. Drake and Josh

What can I even say about this one? It's an all-around great song, from the harmonies to the brotherly love it portrays. What a song. What a show.

3. Phineas and Ferb

This might be a biased opinion since I still watch Phineas and Ferb quite often, but this theme song is genius. Bowling for Soup even performed it at Warped Tour last year. Epic.

4. Avatar: The Last Airbender

My friends and I quote this intro religiously to this very day. I don't know if it counts as a song, but as the creator of the list, I will let it remain here.

5. The Suite Life of Zack and Cody

This is one of those songs that could exist in the actual music world, if unsuccessfully. It's a sweet life indeed.

6. The Fairly OddParents

Even though I had no idea what they were saying half the time, this theme song was constantly stuck in my head as a kid (and it will probably happen to you now that I think about it--sorry).

7. Foster's Home for Imaginary Friends

The image of the house is forever imprinted into my brain, and the music is one step away from being terrifying. I also just wanted to include something from Cartoon Network, and this is the show that stood out most.

8. Hannah Montana

Rewatching this one reminded me of what friendship is about--keeping secrets from the rest of the world that could compromise your happiness.

9. Jimmy Neutron

The song that actually made everyone wish they were nerdier.

10. iCarly

This theme song somehow showcases both the best and worst of technology--its ability to join people together mixed with the added responsibility it brings.

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