Everyone knows someone like this. She is someone who comes off as shy, and that may be true, but really, she just finds it hard to open up to people. She may be an introvert, but not in all cases; in fact, she may be very extroverted. You may think she is standoffish or unemotional, but the truth is, she often feels things more deeply than she lets on. She is simply a girl who has a hard time letting people in.
She doesn't let her feelings show easily.
This doesn't mean she shows no emotions. On a day-to-day basis, there's going to be things that annoy her or make her happy, and she will show you that. It's the deep, personal things in her life that she struggles with sharing with even her close friends. It is hard for to even share things she is working on or is proud of, because she doesn't want to see rejection. She doesn't want anyone to think differently of her.
Sometimes you may think she doesn't have feelings.
She often use sarcasm as a way to hide her emotions, to show that she is fine, when really, her life is the complete opposite. She doesn't like for people to see that something is wrong; she doesn't want to "burden" anyone with her problems. She can come off as rude and insensitive, even though she is more sensitive than anyone would every think. She cares for people. So much.
She's not much of a crier.
This goes along with people not thinking she has emotions. A lot of girls cry easily and regularly at a lot of things - stress, movies, even touching stories - but she feels it internally without expressing it through tears. (Although I admit, college has made me more emotional.) So when she cries, know that it is serious.
She bottles up her emotions until everything blows up.
Since she doesn't want to tell people what's going on, those feelings build up inside her until it is just too much for her to handle any longer. You may find yourself as a victim as one of these blowups, but don't take it personally. You were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. (I apologize for everyone who has been of victim of my blowups.) So if this is you, try to learn from me, and don't keep everything inside.
Her favorite way to deal with problems is denial.
You know when you don't want to reply to a message and you just let it sit there unopened while you pretend it doesn't exist? Well, this is the way that this girl deals with stress. She pretend that the problems in her life aren't really happening, and she begins to focus on things that don't matter. She often gets involved in the lives of television and book characters and make their problems their priorities. She avoids her problems until she physically can't escape them.
If she is comfortable talking to you about all her feelings and everything that is going on in her life, know that you are special to her.
She doesn't talk to just anyone. You have to be a special person for her to open up to you, and that come with time. Her trust builds over time, so don't get frustrated when she doesn't want to talk. Just wait, and believe me, it's usually worth waiting for. If she spills out her emotions to you, congratulations. It is because she trusts you and considers you her best friend- a sacred title that is rarely used unless she knows you'll always be there for her.
