Dear girls who have ever been told that you fall in love too fast,
There is no such thing.
Let me repeat. There is no such thing. Too fast? How can one determine too fast? No one can tell you if you are in love or not, only you can determine that. Love is love, and when you feel it, embrace it. There is no scale or meter to tell us when we are in love, therefore no one should tell anyone else they have fallen too fast. Yes, I know how scary it can be to get those feelings, but I also know how monumental it can be to say that four letter word out loud. Please don't let fear keep you from accepting your true feelings. I am not an advocate for the overuse of the word love by any means, but I do believe that society has scared some of us into not saying it. Not telling someone you love them can cause you to lose them. Don't ever feel like you have to keep your feelings contained for the sake of others. Don't ever feel like you should hold back how you feel about someone because you are afraid of what others will say or think. Always be true to yourself, that includes your feelings and your heart.
Don't be mistaken, like I said, I am definitely not an advocate for throwing around the word love. Let me tell you, that if you think you are in love but are not positive, wait it out. Make sure. I believe that when you can outwardly tell someone you love them without feeling ashamed or awkward about it, that is the right time. If you can't tell a person you love them to their face, but only over text, save yourself and take some time to think about your feelings for them. Is it love? Or is it just the excitement of knowing that someone cares for you or wants you? Think of these things before you tell someone you are in love with them, but do not ever be afraid of love.
Many people will say that millennials overuse the word love. But, has anyone stopped to think that maybe we are finding true love faster? With a plethora of social media platforms and text messages that can be sent and received almost instantaneously, we have spent our lives always in communication. Fifty — even fifteen years ago it wasn't possible for people to be in communication 24/7. People didn't wake up with good morning texts or fall asleep to goodnight messages. I feel that being in communication with someone for long periods of time helps to bring you closer to them; just as living in an apartment with someone you hardly know or sitting next to a new partner in a multi-hour science lab can help you develop a strong relationship. The connections people build from constant communication develop much quicker than relationships that are built through interactions that only happen once a week, or even once a day. While some people definitely may overuse that very special four-letter word, others use it carefully to describe their immense feelings for another person. Using the word love should not be viewed as a bad thing, but as something that should be celebrated and welcomed with open-arms.
Love is a wonderful phenomenon that I believe everyone should get a chance to experience. So please remember, there is no such thing as falling in love "too fast." If you feel love for someone, tell them.
