There are many ways to figure out what you want in life, you can either just decide with the flip of a coin or contemplate them. Being a young college girl, there are many things that you have to think about like boys, your major/minor, where you want to live, and whether or not to spend your money.
These may or may not seem like major issues, but to your average 20-something girl these are major decisions.
Boys, boys, boys...
There are so many different types of men out there that a young woman could fall for. Which means that there is a decision to be made. Being a girl who has to make this decision for herself as well, I know just how difficult this can be. There may be multiple men vying for your heart, but there is only one person who has your attention. There also may be none at all who have your attention. This is where knowing what you want comes in handy, but when you don't; I suggest that you focus on yourself. There are things that need to happen before you can think about spending time with a significant other. You come before anything else, don't every forget that. Most of the time men just add unnecessary stress to an already stressful life so just forget about them if you are unsure.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
This question is heard at family gatherings all over the world. Choosing a major from hundreds of options is stressful. Which is why this question can make you seem confused about everything in your life. When you tell someone what you are going to school for you will either be told that you will be successful in your field, or that you won't be. This is difficult when you are passionate about something but your family, friends, or anyone else puts you down. Just keep your head up. If you love what you are doing, stick with it no matter what anyone says. If you care about it, you will succeed no matter what.
House, apartment, home state, new state...
This one may or may not be an issue for some people. But for those of you who have absolutely have no clue where you want to live when you graduate, and that is totally fine. I personally have decided I am living wherever my job takes me. There are some people who aren't as lucky to be able to just go with the flow. So trying to decide where to live is difficult. My advice is to look at where your career would flourish the best. If you want to be a deep sea diver, you would obviously live on the coast. If you wanted to be a farmer, you would live on a farm. This is self-explanatory for anyone who is looking for a city to call home. Now trying to decide on what to live in is a tad bit different than just going with the flow. It is unrealistic to live in a penthouse that costs $1.5 million dollars when you only makes $20,000 a year is ridiculous. You have to live in a place that you can afford. You can't display money you don't have, work your way up and you'll get there.
Shoes, clothes, food, Oh My!
Since we are on the topic of money, we will discuss something that women are horrible at doing. Shopping. We spend so much money, it is not just our fault. Feminine products are so much more expensive than their male counterparts. The taxes on feminine products are outrageous as well as just the price alone. Our spending habits are not just our fault, but we do overdo it on spending clothes and food. I understand that trying to eat healthy is expensive, but food isn't the biggest issue in money spending. Eating fast food every night is definitely a no, but going grocery shopping every two weeks is perfectly fine. Now the clothing shopping is an issue, you can go out and buy a $40 pair of jeans and get by perfectly fine. Nowadays there are women who think that a label is everything and go out and buy a single pair of jeans for $170. That is ridiculous that a women thinks that they have to have expensive clothing to fit in. Girls. You don't need to spend money on anything that you don't need. Your money doesn't define who you are. Trying to decide whether or not you need to buy something is a difficult decision. When in doubt, if you have it at home; you don't need it.
Not knowing what to spend your money on, where to live out your life, what you want to do, and who to live your live with is a struggle for all college women. They may be small issues in your life or even huge ones, but at least one of these is in your life. Women are always trying to figure out their lives, if you look at someone who has their life together, they do not. No matter how together someone may seem there is always something that they have absolutely no clue what to do. Even though you don't know what to do with your life, you have time to figure it out. Go with the flow and you will have a drastic amount of stress that would leave your life. You don't need a man, money, major, or mansion; what you do need is to be happy.
