To the girl who can’t stay away from taken guys:
You know who you are. I don’t need to tell you. You’re constantly up the butt of a guy who is already taken. You are constantly sending him borderline flirty Snapchats, sliding into his DMs, hanging out with him way too much, as if your presence is going to change his heart and his mind.
Newsflash, honey. It’s not.
And if it does, then by all means, you deserve each other. I’m talking about those relentless girls who claim their intentions aren’t what you think and that they’re just “friends.” Some girls get jealous of their boyfriend’s girl friends, but some girls just know how to pick out the snakes from the friends.
We’re all adults here, aren’t we? Let’s talk about boundaries. Strangers have boundaries. Friends have boundaries. Government officials have boundaries. We all have boundaries. With boundaries comes respect. You wouldn’t just go up to some random stranger and give them a hug, would you? No, that’s silly because that person has boundaries.
I get it. Yes, my boyfriend is a pretty damn good guy. He’s kind, honest, funny, handsome, and loyal. This is why I'm dating him, which is the key concept in this argument.
I’m dating him, not you.
I’m not normally one of those girls who enjoys starting drama. I’m also normally reasonable when it comes to this kind of thing but at a certain point, it gets ridiculous. I get jealous. What girl, nay, human, doesn’t? But this isn’t about jealousy by any means. Just like you wouldn’t hug a random stranger, you probably shouldn’t be trying to monopolize some other girl’s boyfriend.
I’m going to be frank— we trust our boyfriends, we just don’t trust you. Girls know how other girls work. We know how cunning we can be. It’s a gift that shouldn’t be abused on trying to steal someone else’s boyfriend. It’s kind of like when you have superpowers.
You’re supposed to use those superpowers for good, not evil.
Ever hear of girl code? That’s probably one of the most basic principles of girl code, other than not dating your best friend’s ex without talking to her about it first— and always rescuing a girl who is getting hit on by a creepy guy at the bar.
So, let’s all just play nice, okay? Girlfriends aren’t there to bring the claws out and destroy you because you can’t respect boundaries.
But if we have to, we will.
