One of the worst curses of the world is when someone who deserves everything still wants someone who treats them like they mean nothing. You get stuck in this trance, thinking that this (ex) significant other still wants you. You think that all of your best memories of being together will trump over all of the obstacles you are facing now with them. You wait around, for God knows how long. You do anything to run into them; you try anything to make them jealous. All you want is for them to notice you, and hope that something finally clicks in their brain that they actually do want to be with you, too.
You make yourself believe that this person is “the one” for you and that moving on or finding someone else would just not be worth it because this person is just “so great” and that you truly are “meant to be.” I would do anything to help these people understand that there are BILLIONS of people in this world. BILLIONS. God DID NOT stick you on this earth to be tortured while you wait on someone who obviously does not feel the same way as you. God also did not plan on you being with this person. In Jeremiah 29:11 he states, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I can promise you one thing, the longer you spend convincing yourself that this is someone you deserve, the more time you’re taking yourself away from the person you are meant to be with. God has the most perfect plan for you. He never does it all at once though, just step by step because he wants us to walk by faith, and not by sight.
Don’t get me wrong, I know firsthand how hard it is to step away from a situation like this. But I also know from experience that the second you walk away from this person is the moment that your life starts to turn around. You no longer feel that aching, awful pain because this person has no control over you anymore. Start going out with your friends. Make yourself eat. Talk to other people that you’re interested in, but don’t become anything serious until you’re completely healed. In time, you’ll start to see yourself a happier person, and you’ll be so proud of the person with such a strong backbone that you’ve become. Above all else though, learn to love yourself. If you think someone who treats you like an option and who plays mind games with you is someone you need to still be with, then you obviously have not learned to love yourself enough yet. Take some time getting away and learning how to be yourself, and learning all the things that you love to do instead of spending all of your free time stalking or obsessing over your ex. When the time is right, God will stick the right person along in your pathway. But for now, move on.
