Going With the Flow
Start writing a post
Health and Wellness

The Fear Of Acceptance, And Everything It Entails

If someone is accepting you for who you are, then maybe it's time that you do too.

The Fear Of Acceptance, And Everything It Entails

When someone shows interest in me, it often takes me by surprise. It's not that I lack confidence, no, that's not it. I know very well that I am nothing less than a catch. But with the number of bad experiences I've had with men, scratch that-- boys this year, I've begun to wonder whether the ideal guy, really exists? From inconsiderate, to straight up disrespectful, I've had many unpleasant encounters with the whole spectrum of shitty males.

Of course, we must take everything with a grain of salt because no one is perfect. Believe it or not, the people you continue to keep in your life, you have subconsciously chosen to accept their flaws along with their good qualities.

But what I really wanted to talk about right now is the fear of acceptance and everything it entails. Recently, I had the weirdest feeling in the world, and it seemed to be completely unwarranted. When you meet someone new, you fear the possibility of a connection. You start to think of all the things that could go wrong before you even consider any of the things that could potentially go well. Your head imagines the worst possible case scenario, "how many ways can this person fuck me over?"

I used to confuse my naivety with optimism, but nonetheless, I was much more open to things before. Now, after having had nothing go my way for the past few years, I lost some of my faith in the world, in people, in something bigger than myself. I started expecting things to just go wrong before they could even get going.

When you're scared of acceptance, you let your negativity take over. So, even if someone is being amazing to you, you'll question why-- again, and again, until you talk yourself out of it. Anxiety has always gotten in the way of anything good that has ever come my way, but this fear just seemed illogical, yet inevitable. We need to remind ourselves to just let it be, to let things happen the way they will happen. If something good is happening, if you feel suspiciously happy, don't question it, but let yourself enjoy it!

When life's been a roller coaster, it can be hard to process things because your brain may quite literally be fried. But in a world where what goes up must come down, and good things run scarce, I find it best to hold on to them when they do come my way. A depressing, yet comforting sentiment.

Another thing I find myself doing is playing it safe. And in that, I lose myself. I find myself holding back, censoring myself. I forget who I am for a moment, and in turn, am unable to truly express all the colorful parts of my personality. It's easier to hold on to the particulars of a situation, as you may expect things to always go a certain way. But in these instances, try and take a chance. New isn't always necessarily negative. Sometimes, if you have an impulse, you should try seeing it through.

So, just take a deep breath, and enjoy the simple things in life. Not everything needs to be complicated. Sometimes, you just have to take things as they are, and go with the flow. You are who you are. And if someone is accepting you for who you are, then maybe it's time that you do too.

Keep breathing.


Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
A man with a white beard and mustache wearing a hat

As any other person on this planet, it sometimes can be hard to find the good in things. However, as I have always tried my hardest to find happiness in any and every moment and just generally always try to find the best in every situation, I have realized that your own happiness is much more important than people often think. Finding the good in any situation can help you to find happiness in some of the simplest and unexpected places.

Keep Reading...Show less
A painting of the virgin Mary, the baby Jesus, and the wise men

It’s everyone’s favorite time of year. Christmastime is a celebration, but have we forgotten what we are supposed to be celebrating? There is a reason the holiday is called Christmas. Not presentmas. Not Santamas. Not Swiftmas. Christmas.

boy standing in front of man wearing santa claus costume Photo by __ drz __ on Unsplash

What many people forget is that there is no Christmas without Christ. Not only is this a time to spend with your family and loved ones, it is a time to reflect on the blessings we have gotten from Jesus. After all, it is His birthday.

Keep Reading...Show less
Golden retriever sat on the sand with ocean in the background
Photo by Justin Aikin on Unsplash

Anyone who knows me knows how much I adore my dog. I am constantly talking about my love for her. I attribute many of my dog's amazing qualities to her breed. She is a purebred Golden Retriever, and because of this I am a self-proclaimed expert on why these are the best pets a family could have. Here are 11 reasons why Goldens are the undisputed best dog breed in the world.

Keep Reading...Show less

Boyfriend's Christmas Wishlist: 23 Best Gift Ideas for Her

Here are the gifts I would like to ask my boyfriend for to make this season unforgettable.

Young woman opening a Christmas gift

Recently, an article on Total Sorority Move called 23 Things My Boyfriend Better Not Get Me For Christmas, was going around on social media. I hope the author of this was kidding or using digital sarcasm, but I am still repulsed and shocked by the lack of appreciation throughout this article. I would like to represent the girlfriends out there who disagree with her standpoint -- the girlfriends who would be more than happy to receive any of these gifts from their boyfriends.

Keep Reading...Show less
Two teenage girls smiling

The 2000s were a time that many young adults today can look back on, joyfully reminisce and somewhat cringe at the trends and the fads that we all used to love and adore. Here's a list of things from the golden 2000s that will have one feeling nostalgic about all of those times.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments