The Disadvantages Of Strict Parenting

The Disadvantages Of Strict Parenting

Strict parenting isn't just embarassing for teens, its effects are actually harmful.

There are many different styles of raising children, all of which have differing effects on how they develop psychologically. It is important to be an authoritative parent, enforcing rules and expectations so that the child grows up with a learned sense of morality. However, parents who take their authority to an extreme level, expecting unquestioned obedience from their child, are known as authoritarian parents. This parenting style has negative effects of the social and cognitive development of children.

Authoritarian parenting is often characterized by strict rules and harsh punishments. These parents often shame their children and display a withdrawal of love and affection, as a form of punishment. The harsh, cold environment of fearful compliance that exists within authoritarian households, has many disadvantages on the development of children and adolescents.

Children raised by strict, authoritarian parents are more likely to have little self esteem and self-management when they reach adulthood. This is because blind obedience does not leave room for that child to learn how to self-regulate. They are more likely become depressed and show signs of anger outside the home. Also, for kids raised this way, juvenile delinquency is a common way of exercising their independence. Authoritarian parenting often teaches the child to only do what is right when a figure of authority is around, and it also teaches them to become excellent liars.

Balancing authority and enforcement, with warmth and affection is a style that has shown to be most beneficial to a child’s development. Parents who set high expectations for their children but are also understanding and willing to compromise, tend to have closer relationships not only during childhood , but throughout life. An open, relaxed, home-environment fosters strong relationships between parents and children. Growing up with the notion that it is okay to make mistakes is healthy for a developing adolescent and high self-esteem, self-discipline, and respect are characteristics seen in children raised in this way.

The level of strictness that parents enforce on their children plays an important role on development and can have lifelong effects . Being too permissive allows children to believe that they can do whatever they want without any consequence, but being too strict is also extremely harmful to a child. Therefore, a balanced combination of affection and authority within a relaxed home environment doesn’t only benefit cognitive and social development but it also breeds the strong, lifelong, relationships between parents and their children.

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Stop Saying 'Love Is Love' And Then Shame Me For Dating A Republican

"How can you date a Republican?!" Quite easily, actually.


"And love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love." Other theater geeks like me probably also remember this quote from Lin-Manuel Miranda's Tony acceptance speech in 2016. Now, thanks to Lin-Manuel and his talent for catchy phrases, every time someone says "love is love," all I can think of is Lin-Manuel's emphatic cry for equality.

This cry is one that I support wholeheartedly. I think that you should be allowed to love whomever you choose and that you should do so without fear of hatred or scrutiny. If you are a guy who loves guys, great. If you are a girl who loves girls, great. If you are a girl who loves guys and girls, great. You are born a certain way with certain sexual preferences, and there is nothing wrong with that.

However, if you believe that people should be free to love anyone they choose, then, honey, you better start looking past gender.

Let me tell you a little story.

Recently, I had a conversation with one of my closest friends about my boyfriend of almost 11 months. Somehow (and I'm shocked that this hadn't come up before), my boyfriend's political preferences became the topic of conversation.

The conversation went something like this:

"Wait, so is Tom a Democrat or Republican?"

"He's a Republican."

"WHAT?! Are you serious?"


"How can you date a Republican?"

After that, I basically went on a five-minute rant about how at the end of the day, his political preferences only make up a small fraction of who he is as a person and that I am not so shallow that I would be deterred by something this trivial.

At our cores, Tom and I value the exact same things: compassion, knowledge, kindness, dedication, honesty, respect, and above all else, love. Tom loves me unconditionally and I give him that same love in return; honestly, what else could I ask for?

Tom and I do get in some political arguments from time to time, but we also agree on those issues that are most important to me: female reproductive rights, marriage equality, and support for survivors of sexual assault. All of those things are non-negotiables for me, and Tom understands that and possesses his own list of non-negotiables.

Before you ask, yep, he voted for Trump. Did that take me back at first? Yes. Did I struggle to understand what would compel a person to vote for him? Absolutely. Did that thought kind of terrify me at first? Hell yes.

But you know what? After I just sat and listened to Tom's reasoning as to why he voted for him and watched him delve deep into Trump's policies, I could understand why some would vote for him. And to tell the truth, once I fell in love with Tom, none of that mattered anymore. And what is sad is that people so often fall so deep into their own echo chambers nowadays, that they wouldn't even give someone with different beliefs their ear. Well, I'm damn glad I did because Tom is the most amazing person I've ever met and I fall more in love with him every day.

So to tie this all together with a pretty little bow, if you're going to go around and preach that love is love and that everyone should be free to love whom they choose, then that shouldn't change for me. Maybe you're a Democrat that would never date a Republican or maybe you're a Republican who would never date a Democrat; that's your choice. But we don't get to choose who we fall in love with (much to the dismay of my liberal family and friends). Just keep an open mind and who knows? Maybe you could find some absolutely epic happiness.

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240,000+ People Register To Vote  After Taylor Swift Proves She Is Still A World Class Role Model

The singer-songwriter has so much more to offer than just her superb artistry.


Taylor Swift has built herself an empire. Her music appeals to generations of women and men, young and old. Her influence as a star is one of great magnitude, and quite frankly, she is a force to be reckoned with.

Since I've been a child, Taylor Swift has inspired me through her words, her love of her fans, and her treatment of others. But now, with her stating her political opinions, she has crossed into an even greater line of stardom.

Taylor Swift coming forward about her views when in the past she has avoided the spotlight concerning the political atmosphere, was the push young people, especially women, needed. With Swift having the broad fan base that she does, her opinions have a much greater impact than what anyone had thought before.

Within 48 hours of Swift urging her fans to register to vote, over 240,000 people registered.

5,000+ people in her home state of Tennessee alone. That's incredible.

Let's not forget how Kanye West is adamantly supporting Donald Trump (for reasons many of us have yet to fathom), so Swift's call for voters to make their voices heard could not have come sooner. It just goes to show much influence a celebrity can have on endorsing certain political candidates and movements.

In her recent Instagram post, which has close to two million likes, Swift goes into great depth to describe how and why voters should choose their political figures. She names names, and to the surprise of many, is voting democratic these elections.

Taylor Swift on Instagram: “I’m writing this post about the upcoming midterm elections on November 6th, in which I’ll be voting in the state of Tennessee. In the past…”

Although it shouldn't seem like a surprise that Swift is voting for this party, after her lawsuit against former radio host, David Mueller, groped her at a meet-and-greet, it makes sense why she would be voting for people who take sexual assault seriously. Her voice can help represent the voices of many women who have been put in similar situations and have had to deal with the repercussions of it.

Not only does she talk about what is happening to women, but she also talks directly about the treatment of the LGBTQ community and of different racial ethnicities. This is huge. Because of her silence on politics in the past, people started rumors that Swift was actually a "white supremacist" and was "Pro-Trump."

In a single post, all of those allegations were promptly denied. Her support of equality for all persons has made her even more desirable to the public. Swift's role as an icon for millions of young women and men will inspire them to use their own voices instead of watching what is happening around them.

Taylor Swift knew the risks of getting involved with political opinions.

Many of her fans come from more conservative viewpoints. I can only assume that in the past, she didn't want to segregate her followers. But in the end, she made the right decision. Yes, she may lose some of her fans because of this. But she also won the respect of many for the courage to stand up for what she believes in.

I applaud her for that.

Taylor Swift will continue to bring inspiration to young people and old everywhere, and she will always be one of the greatest role models America has.

Listen to her. Make yourself heard. Go and vote.

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