I happen to have both. Yes you heard me correctly; I have a boyfriend and a boy friend.

Let me break it down and give you a little lesson, I can have both. It’s not wrong nor should it be frowned upon. I’m allowed to have friends that are girls, so why can’t I also have friends that are boys?

“Well, you have a boyfriend, so that’s technically cheating. Why do you need to confine in one guy if you already have another?

I’m cheating because I have another person of the opposite sex in my life whom I talk to like I talk to my girl friends?

I’m really trying to find the sense in this, but I’m not sure I’ve come to anything yet. I guess I try and think about my daughter one day, and if her boyfriend told her that he was the only guy she was allowed in her life…would I want that for her? That type of controlling behavior that would eventually start to become normal for her? She would go on in future relationships and believe that she couldn’t trust her significant other to have friends of the opposite sex, but more importantly that she couldn’t trust herself.

I wouldn’t want that for her.

I don’t want it for myself.

My boyfriend and I have a really good relationship-I’d like to think so. We struggled at first, and I think that’s because I needed to learn to trust. Once I did, it was relatively easy from there.

I love his heart, his goofy side, his romantic side, and his spontaneous side that makes into one hell of a man. We’re together frequently, but even when we’re not there is never any doubt or worry like I experienced in past relationships. Those were the ones where my boyfriend at the time was my only friend. I learned that that kind of relationship never benefited me.

My boy friend is a great guy with a huge heart. We talk about school and times we’re stressed about random curveballs life throws at us, but that’s it. We’re two good people that vibe together well. That’s why we’re friends, nothing more-nothing less.

There is a huge difference from my boyfriend and boy friend. One I kiss, touch, hug, and hold…the other I do school work with, laugh at, and fix upon dates. They’re just different situations, but both are acceptable, and I wish more people saw that.

I don’t think I’ll ever convince people that I’m capable of having a healthy relationship while also having a friendship with someone of the opposite sex. That’s okay. At the end of the day, the only person that needs to be comfortable with that is my boyfriend and myself.

We live in a really untrusting world, full of people who lie, cheat, kill, and steal. If me having people close to me is bothersome because their sex isn’t the same as mine, then I guess that’s something I’ll have to accept for what it is..

My boyfriend and my boy friend are both friends with one another. They’ve met, and genuinely like each other. Now we’re a group of friends that enjoy each other’s company. Each situation is what you make of it, I just choose to make mine something I’m proud of.

I can say without a doubt in my mind that I come from a relationship of love and honor.

I can also say I come from a friendship with the exact same thing.

There is a difference between a boyfriend and boy friend, but both are fine to have, and I’m happy to say I have them both.