From a girl who has experienced this first-hand, it's pretty tough. Not just because I'm jealous or overprotective or I don't trust him or anything like that, but it's just hard to get used to your boyfriend going off and spending time with girls one-on-one. However, I have learned to get used to the fact that my significant other has friends that are girls and that he tells them everything, just like I do with my girls. It is actually really cool to see how having girl friends impacts a guy, and vice versa. So, here are some tips to help girls who are experiencing this.
Even though this will be kind of hard to get used to, don't question when your boyfriend says he is going to hang out with one of his girl friends. Especially in the beginning of a relationship, both parties are kind of on the cautious side since you don't exactly know a lot of his friends very well. If he says he is going out to dinner then see a movie with one of his girl friends, just tell them to have a good time and let it go. If you genuinely trust him, this will not be too difficult to do. On the other hand, trusting his girl friend is a little harder to achieve. All these thoughts will rush into your head: "She better not try anything or I will hunt her down," or, "What if he suddenly has the realization on this little 'get-together' that she is better than me in every way possible?" I'm telling you right now that those things should not bother you in the slightest. If your boyfriend cares about you and wants you in his life for a long period of time, he will not put himself in a place to try and rattle that trust. He can handle himself; he is a big boy.
Next, these girls can become some of your good friends. I have gone on several lunch dates with my boyfriend's girl friends and we talk about him, obviously, but we also just have nice bonding time by talking about life in general as well. Or you could be like me and have one of your best friends be your boyfriend's best friend as well, which can be a good and bad thing for several reasons that are meant for another time. Anyway, these girl friends will know things about your boyfriend that you already know and can talk about them with them. One of the best things is talking to them about his little quirks and/or the things that he does that annoy you a lot, which is so awesome to do because they usually think the same things and you can relate to them a little more.
Lastly, if some of the girl friends give you a bad vibe, love them anyway, because for one reason or another, your boyfriend has some type of connection with them. They might avoid you at all costs, but that doesn't mean your boyfriend should stop being friends with them for that reason. They might have helped him through a huge life crisis that you were not around for, and/or they might have created memories together that could never be replaced. It will take some getting used to, but trust me, you do not need to control who your better half should and should not be friends with.
Do not forget that your boyfriend also has an impact on these girls' lives as well. They possibly might go to him because they need guy advice or if their friends need guy advice. Or if they are just broken up with, they go to him to be their shoulder to cry on, whether they are 15 minutes away or six hours away, and he will be there for them no matter what. He brings life to the party, and these girls just like having him around for that purpose. For this reason, you should love your boyfriend a lot more because you see how he impacts so many other people's lives and not just yours.
So, ladies, the next time your man hangs out with a friend that just so happens to be a girl, just be there for him. Put your love and trust in him. These girl friends are just like any other friend who will support him, just like you, through his whole journey in life.
