When you have a specific set of beliefs that don't fit in with the majority, you want to share them--so you can spread the idea love.
Unfortunately, when you choose to share some more...radical ideas, people begin to tell you to shut up.
The first time I learned that I couldn't actually say anything that I wanted to was actually in my sociology class this year. When we discussed cultural assimilation (the forced of assimilation of a minority into a majority group) versus multiculturalism (the respect of other cultures and creation of a culturally diverse society). Right off the bat, I began speaking about how immigrants, specifically my parents, were forced to assimilate to American culture. They had to learn the language, reject their own cultural beliefs, and do everything they could fit in. When I spoke about my own specific experiences as a Chinese-American womyn making her way in America, the majority of the class came at me with slurs of "well you moved here for a reason didn't you?" and "if you're so uncomfortable, you don't have to stay". Their ignorance was astounding, yet it wasn't the worst part of the situation. The most hurtful part of the situation was that no other minorities in the class said anything. I completely understand speaking out is an individual's prerogative; however, if you see a sister getting beat down by the words of others, you should reach out a hand and help.
Speaking out is extremely dangerous, but our communities are only as safe as we make them. When minorities need to speak and critique events that are happening around them, don't ostracize whoever is speaking--labeling the speaker as "that person who has way too many opinions" is never a productive method of discussion. When you see ignorance in a community where it seems accepted for groups of people to emotionally attack a contributor stick up and step in for the victim. You don't have to say anything, but giving support through eye contact, small gestures, or talking to them after class builds a safe space that tells dissenters that the opinions they have are valid and heard. As we move towards a more progressive future, it is crucial that we allow individuality and outspokenness to reign--without dissent, no real reforms can be made and nothing will be changed.
If you cannot find a support system to help you find your voice, understand that I am always here in silent support. I stand next to you and think your experiences are just as valid as the sky is blue. Keep your head high and your voice loud.
