Nowadays relationships are very casual and I don't limit
this observation to simply romantic ones. With this being said, I have come to an understanding
that people fear many things and that feelings are now on that list.
"Catching feelings" is what I hear on a regular basis. Sometimes I perceive this casual hook-up culture as one big contest as to who will "catch feelings" first. In other words, who will develop feelings first (obviously). Feelings are now referred to as if they're some horrible disease.
It is not only in romantic relationships, but even in friendships. It's come to a point where we stress loyalty but, the minute someone makes a mistake or hurts someone, the only way to ever avoid another situation like this is to avoid all feeling in general. This is not only counter productive, but I also attribute this to a new trend that has been sweeping our culture and social media feeds: being mean.
Being mean has become some new trend because it protects you from the big bad world, right? When it comes right down to it it’s just another way to bottle up our feelings. In doing this we lose sight of ourselves. By disconnecting from loved ones and friendships we also ignore ourselves. If this spreads we will only hurt ourselves and others. It's important to be forward with our feelings. Life would be boring without it! Relationships will not develop with this kind of thinking and you won't grow as a person either.
Be kind to others and yourself. Cry a little. It's normal.
Acting like you don't have a heart isn’t good for you. I, like most people, hate confrontation. But sometimes, with the right environment and time, it is necessary. Be honest with yourself and others.
This doesn't just go for the more feminine people of the world. Masculinity does not mean that you do not have the right to feel things or become emotional.
Don't give in to this trend. Being afraid to feel is being afraid of the world. Allow yourself to experience life to the fullest! Obviously you should always be respectful when expressing your feelings, but do it. I promise that you'll be happier in the long run.
