In this day and age, the dating game has changed drastically. There are no more actual first dates, a guy walking you to your front door, or romance in general. For this generation, the dating game goes like this: you meet someone at a party, flirt for five minutes, “hook up” (however you choose to define it), maybe get his or her number or slide into his or her DM’s, and then, possibly, a relationship forms. It seems that this generation is only looking for someone to “have fun with”, whatever that entails. If you are seen as potentially more than that, guys tend to run for the hills.
This is the curse of being a girl who is labeled as the “marrying type.” This is when guys automatically assume that your personality and redeeming qualities make you a good fit for a husband. They say things like, “You are not the type of girl you’d hook up with; you are the type of girl you’d marry.” It sounds flattering doesn’t it? Like they are putting you on a pedestal over other girls. But when that flattery fades away, you see the truth. You realize that it’s just a bunch of bullshit. It’s a lame excuse to skirt around any form of commitment and you shouldn’t buy into it.
It’s frustrating being labeled as the girl who is the marrying type. Guys view you as too much effort at this point in their lives, so they don’t even bother. Contrary to what this generation of guys think, you are not on the prowl for a husband, you do not want to get married any time soon, and you are not looking for instant commitment. What you really want is just someone cool to hang out with and make you laugh; maybe even eat some Chipotle once in a while. Just because you want to be taken seriously doesn’t mean you want a serious relationship.
So here is some advice for girls with the curse of the marrying type. Being labeled as the marrying type is not a bad thing. Take it as the compliment that it is. Don’t get frustrated if a guy labels you as the marrying type. Be thankful that he is upfront in saying he doesn’t want someone like you right now, but that doesn’t mean you should wait around for him. Don’t waste your time on someone who cannot handle the amazing qualities you have to offer. Just because some boys aren’t interested in the marriage type doesn’t mean they all aren’t. If he doesn’t listen when you talk, it’s time to walk. Engaging conversations means something; trust me. Don’t lower your standards for someone who refuses to raise theirs. Stay true to yourself, stay in the game, and do as Blair Waldorf says, “Have a little faith and if that doesn’t work, have a lot of mimosas.”
