The 'Ignorance Is Bliss' Trap

The 'Ignorance Is Bliss' Trap

Seeking truth and finding freedom.

I recently found an unread Facebook message from about 6 years ago. It was someone using a fake profile saying that my boyfriend at the time was cheating on me.

I never actually saw the message when it was sent. We wound up ending things about a year later, but on other terms. Fast forward 6 years later, I read that message with such gratefulness in my heart. First, to the young woman who made that account and believed that I deserved to hear the truth. Then, I realized my thankfulness for the where I am now, and that I can see that terrible road I walked down for years, but in the far distance.

Looking back, I can vividly remember the pit in my stomach that I woke up with daily, as I wrestled with thoughts of doubt and humiliation. I knew he was doing something behind my back. There always was a situation that didn't add up. But there was never a conclusion. Now I know that the conclusion was there all along. It was just sitting in my unread Facebook messages.

Often, the truth we believe that we so desperately desire is available to us. We just aren’t accepting it’s messenger when it comes knocking. Maybe we can’t even hear the knock on the door because we are filling our ears with any noise we can to avoid the pain that will come with it. We sit and wait for the “right time”, but we’re just delaying the inevitable. I guess that’s why they say, “ignorance is bliss”.

The thing about the truth is, it’s always revealed. We can run around and avoid it for as long as possible, but eventually it finds us. It is our human-nature be truth seekers.

When I think about the way I felt when I ended things with my then-boyfriend, it seems like another lifetime. Mainly because it's not really important to me anymore. I don’t even remember that guy’s middle name. I’m a lot happier now for many reasons.

The lesson is that ignorance can be bliss, but in truth, there is freedom. Ignorance is Euphoric. It’s ecstasy, and the come down is bitter. When you run out of the serotonin (or lies), keeping you afloat, you’re left with the ache. This is the sharp knife called, reality. This is your truth.

If you ask me, it’s not worth the trip.

My heart doesn’t hurt for myself anymore, but it does hurt for you. To the girl who is reading this and feeling like this hit a little too close to home, don’t ignore that pit in your stomach. Don’t discount discernment. The truth is approaching you, but you have to decide to let it in. Over time, it will gain strength and learn to manifest itself into more obvious ways. Today it’s unread Facebook message from a stranger, but tomorrow it’s a friendship on the line because the people who love you can’t watch you go through this anymore.

The truth is constantly chasing after you, and you can’t ride the wave of ignorance forever. When it all comes crashing down, may you rest in the reality and know, the view only gets better from there.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Part 1: Necessary Changes

One of my favorite movies is "Fried Green Tomatoes" with Kathy Bates. In the movie Bates' character Evelyn Couch says, "Someone helped put a mirror up in front of my face, and I didn't like what I saw one bit. And you know what I did? I changed." I know the feeling.


I looked in the mirror over the weekend and didn't like what I saw.

The person I saw looking back at me is petty, selfish, manipulative, and unattractive. It wasn't that I hated what I saw, but I definitely didn't like what I saw either. It's a surreal feeling, looking at yourself through a critical lens, and it doesn't make you feel good in any way shape or form.

The image that I see of myself is not how I want others to perceive me. I want to be someone that people look at and see kindness, compassion, strength, and confidence.

I have enough general life experience to know that these types of changes aren't going to happen overnight, and not all of them will be physical; most of these will have to happen from the inside, from within myself.

When you find out you are all broken and damaged, it's hard to know where to start putting the pieces back together. I figured the best place to start would be the most literal: my actual insides; so, I decided to embark on a deep-cleansing journey to get all of the toxins out of my body, from the inside out.

I found this book on 10-day green smoothie detox stashed away in the dark corner of my bookshelf. The science behind it seems accurate and legitimate. By eliminating certain foods, your body is able to detox itself off of chemicals and foods that are slowing down your metabolism; the smoothies are specifically designed with combinations of foods that help restart your metabolism. Part of the detox process is getting rid of all dependencies on caffeine, alcohol, and sugar.

Every day you are given the recipe for a specific smoothie; you make the smoothie (about 40 ounces) and sip on it throughout the day whenever you get hungry. Every smoothie is a combination of leafy greens, water, fruit, and flax seeds. If you do happen to get hungry throughout the day, you are encouraged to eat raw nuts, hard boiled eggs, and a wide variety of crunchy green vegetables. There is also a detox tea that you have first thing in the morning, but other than that no other beverages are allowed except water.

I know that this is only the beginning of a very long, emotional, and draining journey. But I think I'm at the point in my life where I have to make these changes. I have to put my pieces together, I have to become a normal functioning adult, I have to find out who I am. I think that this is the perfect way to start.

For the next 10 days I am going to be documenting my experiences, how I'm feeling, what my emotions are doing, and any results that I see.

Stay tuned!

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