We’ve all been there. We thought we had a great friend that would be there for us NO matter what, but then they failed us tremendously. Friends can stab you in the back and then proceed to smile in your face like everything is fine. Sometimes friends would make it clear they would support you 100 percent and then when you did something YOU wanted to do, THEY would turn their back on you and call you stupid. There are also friends that purposefully leave you out because they did not want to be around you but they still wanted to reap the benefits of being your “friend.”
I have had every single “friend” listed above and I am sure you readers have had your fair share of bad friend experiences as well. I have made a good bit of mistakes in my life that seriously could qualify as “stupid” or “dumb,” but the choice to cut a friend off for not being there for me is not one of them. This is for all of the “friends” out there who were not there when you were needed, talked bad about your friend, and did not think of anyone but yourself.
Bad friends are not hard to come by in this day and age. Many “friends” will be there for you when it’s convenient for them and when it does not require a lot of effort on their part. That is not a true friend. One cannot claim to be a friend if they cannot deal with the low points of your life. I have been there for friends in the WORST circumstances and then when I call out for them, they were nowhere to be found. Friends should be there for you at your very worst not just your best.
I have had friends get ANGRY with me for turning to them for advice or help just to get turned back around for being an “inconvenience” in their life or they ask me my personal favorite question, “Why are you asking me this?” Not being there for someone who NEEDS you is not just a bad friend; they are just a plain bad person. Do not entertain me with the idea of you being my friend when you can’t even be there for me when I need you. Yes, I have had a lot of bad stuff happen in my life that you might not be able to keep up with and that is fine, but do not write it off for it being my fault. People are just hard to deal with these days and no one wants any inconvenience for their life if it does not involve them.
I have had a lot of bad friends throughout my ENTIRE life and I never get good at dealing with how they treat me. I have to admit; I haven’t been the greatest friend either. I am sure I have fell through on the friendship just as much as they fell through on their side. I have dealt with a lot of things in my life that sometimes did not include their friendship, which is why they may be treating me bad now. If I am a big enough person to own up to my mistakes, they, as my “friend” should be able to see that and still want to be my friend. The best revenge to seek for these horrible friends is to forgive them, say sorry to them for anything you may have done wrong, and move on without them. Life is just stupid hard sometimes, and friends will always come and go.
Just remember, YOU can be the bigger person and forgive them for their horrible ways even when it is hard. Everyone owes that to themselves, to move on with our lives for dealing with that kind of treatment. Not everyone is going to love you and not everyone is going to be a good friend to you. You need to pick up the pieces, hold on to the good friends you have, and continue on with your life. God has a plan for every mistake and every bad friend you encounter. Everyone makes mistakes and absolutely NO ONE is perfect.
The best person to ever hit the face of the Earth had very few friends. His name was Jesus. Jesus was abused, made fun of, and not treated well at all most times. Jesus dealt with these kind of problems for his entire life. Your friendship may have failed but you can learn how to be a better friend to someone else. Pray for your ex-friend and pray for yourself. There’s always going to be a new day and remember; losing a friend who was never really there for you is simply part of life and the best is yet to come.
