Friends are supposed to make it through everything; nothing should come in the way of you and your friendships. For a moment, let’s compare friends versus best friends (I have more than one). A friend is there for you when you in need, sick and health, richer and poorer; similar to a best friend. The difference between them is their approach to recovery when you are in need. In an instance where you need emotional or physical aid, your friend will give a safe and smooth approach. While your best friend(s) will deliver a fast, honest, and possibly painful approach. Yet, I do want to discuss the difference of friends but how much are we willing to put it with concerning our friends? Are we willing to put up with more because they are our best friends? Lastly, is there just a general about of crap that as human we will not tolerate?
Let me tell you a story. Once upon a time, I had a friend, a BEST FRIEND to be specific, who had a boyfriend. I did not like him. I thought he was an old, 27 years of age, bum aspiring to be a something that was never going to happen. Rude, right? I know but his approach is all wrong to trying to reach his dreams. My concern was not with the fact that he sold drugs or his house never met Lysol or Clorox, it was the disrespect. I had an expectation that my BEST FRIEND would say something, which I should. I had mentioned it once before to her and she blew me off. Fast forward a couple of months, we have not spoken in more than a couple of months. I was mad about a couple of things, so much more than the boyfriends.
1. How could you let your boyfriend disrespect me? Last I remember, I have been here way before and the plan was to be here after him. You should put him in his place.
2. Have any of my boyfriends disrespected you? No.
3. I miss US, You and I, hanging out. I don’t like this third wheel idea you keep selling me. When we hang out, it should be you and me, me and you, just us.
Now I did not plan for my best friend and I to stop speaking, NO. I expressed my feelings to her and nothing changed. So the universe stepped in and decided that we didn't need to speak. Obviously, my expectations for our friendship were high. Can you blame me? I had known her for seven plus years. We attended prom together had lunch together every day in high school. I couldn't have imagined not putting up with crap because that's what friends do. My friend count is low so if you are my friend, I value you. I expect you give me the truth and nothing but the truth. When I need you to be there for me because I will be there for you. We are friends and I am in this for life.*
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