I’m not some specialist who can help people find love, I am not an expert on love, and I don’t have any special degree or anything. But for those of you reading this thinking, “Why should I listen to this guy?". All I can say is if you’re currently single, and trying to find your special someone, I have been in your position before. Right now I am in a relationship with an amazing girl. She is the girl I have waited so long for because she has made my life so much better.

But before that, I was just a single guy waiting for his special someone to come along. I know how much of a struggle it may be, I know there are times where you’re like "screw it, I don’t need anybody, I’ll be fine on my own".

But then deep down inside, you really just wish you could have a relationship that works out.

None of that talking for a few weeks and then right before you ask them what you guys are, they ghost you. No playing any games, just a real relationship. I know how frustrating it can be, but I can promise you that one day you will find the girl/guy you’ve been waiting so long for, just like I was.

As cliché as it may sound, the best things really do take time, and they come when you least expect it.

I know some people feel like it will never come like you’re destined to be forever alone. I felt that way sometimes too, I felt like I would never find a girl who loves me and appreciates me for who I am, and will stick with me during no matter how hard times get. You will come across people in your life who come in, make you happy, then turn around and break your heart and the next thing you know, you’re laying in bed crying while listening to Marvin’s Room by Drake. Unfortunately, it happens.

You will meet people you think you’re meant to be with, and it will end in heartbreak. But not everyone you meet is the one you’re destined to be with. It is a sad reality sometimes, but you have to remember that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we have to go through some pain before we can truly be happy.

One of the best things you can do is to take time to focus on yourself.

Before you can love someone else, you have to learn how to love yourself and learn how to make yourself happy. A good idea is always to spend a lot of time with your close friends, but also take some time for yourself. Do the things that make you truly happy, whether it be to go workout, sleep, watch Netflix, go for a run, or even go for a long drive. Personally, I would always make Sundays my personal or mental health days.

I would make sure all my homework is done so I could just relax by myself or even go for a run. But the most important thing was that I was taking time to make myself happy and love myself. Along with learning to love yourself, you have to learn that you are worth so much more than you think. Remind yourself that you deserve someone who will accept you for who you are, through all your flaws and imperfections, never settle for anything less.

So to whoever is reading this, no matter who you are, I promise you the person you have been waiting for your whole life will come. I know you’re probably rolling your eyes thinking everyone says this. But good things really do take time, and they come when you least expect it.

Second semester sophomore year, I started to feel lost and feel like I would never find anyone who loves me and would accept me for who I am. There were times where it would hit me harder than I thought, but I kept a positive attitude. I stopped chasing love, and I waited for it to come my way. I took time to love myself and make myself happy. Yeah, there were times where I felt hopeless, and that’s okay, sometimes it will feel like that.

But the second semester came to an end, and unexpectedly I met the love of my life. It started out slow, then the next I knew we were dating and I fell in love with her. To this day, we are still together and I have never felt happier.

So my best advice that I can give to anyone who is single and waiting for love, just be patient.

Because the love you seek will come to you, it may not happen instantly, but someday you will be with the person you love, and you will look back at all the times you felt hopeless and realize all the waiting was worth it. So it’s okay if you feel lonely or hate love and relationships, but just remember one day, you will find true love.