When I Say I Wish The Best For My Ex, I Actually Mean It
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When I Say I Wish The Best For My Ex, I Actually Mean It

Because what's the point in being bitter?

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When I Say I Wish The Best For My Ex, I Actually Mean It
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I would be lying if I said that these words were always so easy for me to say. Healing takes time, and my heart certainly needed some healing. Did I let my confusion, hurt, anger, and sadness influence my feelings and actions for a certain period of time? Absolutely. And that's okay. The feelings I felt after the break up just showed that I truly cared.

And I still do care about his well-being, as I should with any other human being.

While I was healing, I, too, was growing. Through my growth, I realized all of the reasons there were to be thankful for our relationship. To be thankful for an experience that allowed me to learn so many valuable life lessons, not only about relationships in general, but about myself, too.

For these reasons and more, I will never say that I regretted the relationship.

It was a part of God's plan to temporarily place him in my life, so why would I have any regrets about that?

Similarly, everything from this point on in his life is a part of God's plan for him, so it would only make sense for me to rejoice and be happy for all of it.

I am grateful to have been a minor influence in his life, to have been a stepping stone that will one day lead him to the one that is meant for him. What a cool feeling it is to know that God chose me to be placed in that role.

See also: 10 Lies My Exes Told Me That I Still Remember Today

As for my life as I go on from here, there is so much I am able to take away. My heartbreak made me realize that what doesn't kill me makes me stronger. This can apply to all of us as we all face hardships, disappointments, and setbacks. You have the power to choose how you react. You can choose to have a bitter heart and to live a life of resentment, or you can choose to have a forgiving heart and to live a life of growth and healing.

I chose the option to forgive, to grow and to heal from it.

And once I chose this path, it is amazing how easy God made it for me. He guided me through it, allowing me to be thankful for the past, but not to dwell on it. He allowed me to feel peace and comfort, reminding me that this was simply the ending of one chapter within a grand and beautiful novel that he had written for me.

My happy ending was coming one day, but until then, He was opening my eyes to see His goodness in my every day ordinary life.

I immediately felt myself letting go of any bitterness that had built up inside of me.

It was then that I was able to truly rejoice and be happy for my ex's successes and to mean it when I wish him the best with his life as I continue on my way with mine.

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