I am a virgin and proud of it. I know there are plenty of people who would read this in disbelief and wonder why I would actually take pride in that. To those shocked individuals, I say this: Yes, I have a girlfriend. Yes, I have hormones like any other guy. And no, there is not something wrong with me. I choose virginity, firmly believing in the value of purity until marriage. I am a Christian who stands by this belief, but my conviction in refraining from sexual activity until marriage stems from more than just religious reasons. Remaining a virgin until marriage has an incredible amount of intrinsic value that has been warped by modern day culture. Sex is not an act that is meant to be shared with just any person. The only true satisfaction for sex is found in marriage.
As I mentioned before, sex has been portrayed by society as an act that happens with any individual that you have strong feelings for. Many shows and games portray the loss of one’s virginity as a ticket for manhood. For women, giving up their bodies is portrayed as the ultimate way to express love. It’s sickening to see sex glorified in this twisted way. Virginity is not a “condition” that identifies an individual as a child. To think this is in itself childish. A man who is able to control himself sexually until he is finally married ought to be seen as maturity. If anything, a man’s love is displayed by keeping virginity until marriage, and the same can be said for a woman. To care so deeply for the person you will one day marry that you forego any sexual activity until one is finally with their spouse is the ultimate display of love. Waiting for marriage says, “I love you so much that I will wait to give you something I have never given to any other person.”
Virginity until marriage is more than just an act of love, it is also an act of self-preservation. Sexually transmitted diseases are rampant in society today. Yes, it is the same cliché argument for why one shouldn't have sex until marriage, but it is so undeniably true. Why put yourself at risk sleeping around with people, never knowing if one of them may give you a disease that will forever affect your life? Even beyond sexually-related ailments, there is maturity even in avoiding becoming a parent too soon. As stupid as it may sound, if you don’t want to get pregnant, don't have sex in the first place. I firmly believe children are a gift and blessing, but only in the right context when both parents are ready to raise that child. To have children too soon or before one is ready can put an immense financial and emotional toll on an individual, as well as other stress in life and relationships.
Of course, in a world with such a skewed idea of sex, it would be naive of me to think that my views on virginity will change many minds. Yet, it is something that needs to be said. I am a virgin and proud of it. I honestly believe in the value and special gift of sexual purity, and the importance of waiting to share it with the person who actually deserves to have it: your spouse.
