We’re taught at such a young age that we’re meant to be with someone. We’re taught to make ourselves presentable, pretty and to be desirable, dateable.

We’re taught to not exactly befriend boys, but analyze them, figure out if they’d be a good match, to jump at the chance to go on a date whether it's with someone that we like or not. Instead of having conversations for the sake of getting to know someone, we’re having conversations for the sake of getting to know if that someone could be our someone. We’re taught at such a young age to play this game. Even if we never signed up or wanted to play this game.

We’re taught to be and do all of these things for someone else. Why are we bending ourselves over backwards for these mysterious beings that are apparently our soulmates, but not for ourselves?

There are all of these shows like "Are You the One?" and "The Bachelor" that are telling people something is wrong with them because they’re single, because they “haven’t found love.” Why is there such a problem with people being single? Is it because we should feel lonely, and lifeless and meaningless without someone? Often, we do. But maybe we wouldn’t, if we were taught to have a different mindset.

What we should be doing is living for ourselves. Not this mystical person that may or may not be real. But for our beautiful, deserving, very real selves.

Everybody is convinced that the key to happiness is finding love. And to most, that means falling in love with the perfect person. It’s time to change the definition of finding love. Find love within yourself. Love yourself. Cater to yourself. Be happy and awesome for yourself. You're great.