The 7 Things I Started Doing To Be A Better Me, And You Should Too

The 7 Things I Started Doing To Be A Better Me, And You Should Too

I might've come up with 7 things thanks to Miley Cyrus, but the rest is all me.

I'm not big on New Year's Resolutions. I don't remember the last time I had one, but I am big on setting personal goals. As I get older (I mean, I am in my 20s now), I'm noticing my body doesn't handle my high school habits the way it used to. This year, I've really been focusing on living a healthier life without having to make some drastic change or sign up for some weird eating plan.

I'm all about practicality, I live in a sorority with 60 people, and I'm a broke college student who is always busy. My resources are limited, but it's easy to make small changes without sacrificing too much.

1. Read more than you watch T.V.

What a concept... Is this what people did before television?

Books can get pricey, but it's so fun to exchange books with friends. I just started reading yet another Nicholas Sparks book and finally got some reading glasses. Woop, Woop!

2. Add him on LinkedIn instead of Snapchat

I've never actually tried this, but my theory is if he cares about you/wants to get to know you, he’ll love to check out your accomplishments and professional experience. This will also expand your network, and who knows, maybe you two will be a power couple someday.

3. Drink more water

If it means you have to invest in a $40 HydroFlask and some Red Bubble stickers, so be it. While you’re at it, eat some vegetables and lay off the dairy (milk is made for baby cows, not grown-up humans).

4. Exercise

If you have time to sit around and watch Netflix or go out on the weekends, you have time to work out. It doesn't have to be anything too intense, it can be walking or running on a treadmill, and you can watch Netflix while you do it. Make sure to stretch and alternate between cardio and conditioning. They work best together!

5. Cool it with sugary drinks

Energy drinks are just a no. You don’t need them and they don’t need you. Even the "healthy" ones aren't good for you. Also, your iced coconut milk caramel macchiatto probably has a few days' worth of sugar. I used to be a coffee feen when I worked as a barista, then I realized how much sugar I was drinking. Now, I love iced americanos with a touch of honey.

6. Have dedicated "you" time

I'm a full-time student, a content creator for Odyssey, and a public relations intern. I could easily be working or doing homework seven days a week, but I would go crazy. I always make it a point to get all my school work, articles, or internship assignments done between Monday and Friday so the weekend is mine to refresh and recharge.

7. Have goals instead of dreams

A dream is a goal without a plan and isn't likely to be achieved. If this dream is something you'd like to reach, start planning. It's okay to start small — the baby steps matter too, but without a plan, your dreams will probably just stay dreams. One of my dreams was going to graduate school, and I started taking the baby steps to get there. Now I'm going to Spokane next year for speech and hearing sciences. Dreams do come true if you turn them into attainable goals!

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To The Person Who Feels Suicidal But Doesn't Want To Die

Suicidal thoughts are not black and white.

Everyone assumes that if you have suicidal thoughts that means you want to die.

Suicidal thoughts are thought of in such black-and-white terms. Either you have suicidal thoughts and you want to die, or you don't have suicidal thoughts and you want to live. What most people don't understand is there are some stuck in the gray area of those two statements, I for one am one of them.

I've had suicidal thoughts since I was a kid.

My first recollection of it was when I came home after school one day and got in trouble, and while I was just sitting in the dining room I kept thinking, “I wonder what it would be like to take a knife from the kitchen and just shove it into my stomach." I didn't want to die, or even hurt myself for that matter. But those thoughts haven't stopped since.

I've thought about going into the bathroom and taking every single pill I could find and just drifting to sleep and never waking back up, I've thought about hurting myself to take the pain away, just a few days ago on my way to work I thought about driving my car straight into a tree. But I didn't. Why? Because even though that urge was so strong, I didn't want to die. I still don't, I don't want my life to end.

I don't think I've ever told anyone about these feelings. I don't want others to worry because the first thing anyone thinks when you tell them you have thoughts about hurting or killing yourself is that you're absolutely going to do it and they begin to panic. Yes, I have suicidal thoughts, but I don't want to die.

It's a confusing feeling, it's a scary feeling.

When the depression takes over you feel like you aren't in control. It's like you're drowning.

Every bad memory, every single thing that hurt you, every bad thing you've ever done comes back and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you're about the reach the surface. It's suffocating and not being able to do anything about it.

The hardest part is you never know when these thoughts are going to come. Some days you're just so happy and can't believe how good your life is, and the very next day you could be alone in a dark room unable to see because of the tears welling up in your eyes and thinking you'd be better off dead. You feel alone, you feel like a burden to everyone around you, you feel like the world would be better off without you. I wish it was something I could just turn off but I can't, no matter how hard I try.

These feelings come in waves.

It feels like you're swimming and the sun is shining and you're having a great time until a wave comes and sucks you under into the darkness of the water. No matter how hard you try to reach the surface again a new wave comes and hits you back under again, and again, and again.

And then it just stops.

But you never know when the next wave is going to come. You never know when you're going to be sucked back under.

I always wondered if I was the only one like this.

It didn't make any sense to me, how did I think about suicide so often but not want to die? But I was thinking about it in black and white, I thought I wasn't allowed to have those feelings since I wasn't going to act on them. But then I read articles much like this one and I realized I'm not the only one. Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, and my feelings are valid.

To everyone who feels this way, you aren't alone.

I thought I was for the longest time, I thought I was the only one who felt this way and I didn't understand how I could feel this way. But please, I implore you to talk to someone, anyone, about the way you're feeling, whether it be a family member, significant other, a friend, a therapist.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I feel in fear that they would either brush me off because “who could be suicidal but not want to die?" or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something. Writing this article has been the greatest feeling of relief I've felt in a long time, talking about it helps. I know it's scary to tell people how you're feeling, but you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.

Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, your feelings are valid, and there are people here for you. You are not alone.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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The Lazy Girl's Guide To The Gym

Also, everything else you should know if you're a slightly out-of-shape girl (like me).


With my freshman year coming to an end, I realized a lot of things. I made new friends, I found new hobbies, and I learned a lot of lessons. One of them being that the "Freshman 15" is very real and very scary.

While my friends and family have attempted multiple times to convince me that I'm just being dramatic (I am), I still want to make a change in my lifestyle or I will, in all seriousness, be on track to the "Sophomore 20".

Here is a list of my best gym and healthy lifestyle tips that I am slowly attempting to live by this summer in order to resurrect Emily's 18-year-old body and health.

1. Increase water intake.

2. Find a gym buddy.

3. Start off with cardio.

4. Don't stop on your cardio until you're dripping in sweat.

5. Chug a LOT of water an hour before the gym.

Do not do it right before, or you will be in pain.

6. Eat light beforehand but just enough to hold you over. 

7. Plan out what your routine will be BEFORE you get there.

My routine: Elliptical for a mile, Stairmaster for 10 minutes, ab HIIT workout for 10 minutes, 5 more minutes on Stairmaster.

8. Buy healthy foods while you're feeling motivated.

9. Find a gym that isn't too far from your house. 

10. Don't get mad at yourself if you don't see results in a day.

I know this is a hard one.

11. Try fitness classes. 

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