We've all been there.
Whether it was over a huge fight, slight disagreement, whatever.
Most of us have all lost a close friend at some point.
For those of you still going through it, here's what you might expect.
Denial
You probably won't believe it at first. You were so close for so long that it seems like there's literally no way you aren't friends anymore. How could you no longer have that friend that you used to tell absolutely everything to? When people hear about it and start asking questions, you'll want to think it's not actually true. There's no way.
Anger
Once you finally realize that it actually is happening, you'll probably get angry. Angry at your now ex-best friend, angry at yourself, angry at whoever you think may have caused this. It's understandable. They're probably angry too. Remember to stay true to yourself and refrain from the subtweets, mean texts, gossip, etc. It's not worth it and you'll most likely regret it. They were your BEST friend at one point. You know deep down that there are good qualities about them, even if you're mad right now.
Bargaining
Eventually you'll calm down and realize you will do anything to get your best friend back. You might not act on it, especially if it's a hopeless cause at this point. Your other close friends will probably get sick and tired of hearing you ask about her and what you should do about the whole thing. You might do subtle things like distance yourself from people you know she doesn't like or make sure you like all of her Instagram pictures - there's no shame in that. Like I said before, she was your best friend. You shouldn't forget that even if you want to; they helped you through a lot.
Honestly, it's gonna suck. From my own personal experiences, best friend "break ups" are way worse than regular ones. You did EVERYTHING together. You told each other everything. You trusted them. You knew them like the back of your hand. You'll probably think you'll never connect with someone the way you did with them. Keep your head up, it does get easier and a lot of times these pull you closer to the people you're actually supposed to be close with.
Acceptance
I promise you that you will come to terms with it and probably be happier than you were before. This "break up" will force you to become closer with other people. You'll have time to figure out who you are as a person. I can tell you that even if you feel like you did nothing wrong to cause this to happen, it will make you and them feel better. If they apologize to you first, make sure you apologize BACK. It usually takes two to tango and there's a good chance you had some part in the break up, too. It doesn't hurt to own up to your mistakes and at least be on civil terms. The two of you had some great times together, don't forget that.
