Oh, the holidays… What a wonderful (horrible) time of year.
Bah humbug and all that.
I’ve never been big about Thanksgiving or Christmas. I’m an only child, and while there are some exceptions, it’s pretty difficult to inject a whole lot of tradition into a group of only three people. Dinner together at a restaurant is about as intricate as our holiday plans get. That doesn’t mean I haven’t always craved the holiday spirit, and I’ll admit I feel jealous seeing everyone’s “so thankful for my family” social media posts.
But, everything’s about to change… Well, perhaps it’s not that dramatic, but I’m spending Thanksgiving with my boyfriend’s family.
So, let’s review. I, the anti-holiday Grinch, am going to participate in a family Thanksgiving—a family that I would very much like to stay on the good side of. I absolutely adore them. As you can imagine, I’ve done my research and I thought I would share it with all of you. So, here’s a short little guide to spending Thanksgiving with your significant other and their family. TBD on if it’s effective.
1. Manage your school work accordingly
First and foremost, I’m a law student. I, as do many undergraduates, come back from Thanksgiving to finals. The break is vital study time for students. I’ve been very upfront with my boyfriend about the time I’ll need to spend in the books. I’m also working hard to be able to take as much of Thursday off as I can.
Be honest with your SO and their family about your time!
2. Attire
I’ve only ever gone to dinner with my parents for a Thanksgiving meal. For me, this always meant a cute, Pinterest worthy fall outfit. One of the first questions I asked my boyfriend was what to wear (watch me show up in a ball gown to a sweatpants affair). I was told “comfy clothes.” Do you know how hard it is for me to impress people in pajamas? Aerie, here I come.
Dress like they do, but err on the side of overdressing.
3. Do your part
Now, I’ll be the first to admit that I can’t cook. I don’t remember the last time I even watched a Thanksgiving meal being prepared. But, I am planning to bring a bottle of wine and chip in wherever I can. If the family functions like a well-oiled machine, know when to just stay out of the way. Table manners go a long way as well, and an offer to help with the dishes can’t hurt.
Bring your own addition to the meal or a bottle of wine, but check with your SO about traditions.
4. Conversation
Lastly, talk to people! Odds are, the family wants to get to know you and wants to ask you questions. I’m looking forward to talking with my boyfriend’s family because I genuinely miss them. Depending on how well you know the family, it’s wise to stay away from controversial topics. If they are brought up, keep your comments to a minimum.
Chime in on the conversations, be a part of the day not just a fly on the wall!
Obviously, the most important thing is to be yourself. This is a holiday about community and being grateful after all.
