I’m a junior in high school and I have been dating my wonderful boyfriend for three years (please save all your gasps and judgments for the end). Yes, I have heard the positives and negatives of having a committed relationship in high school, we’ve lived through a lot of it. And there are tons of theories and concerns that many people throw at “high school sweethearts," but if I’m being honest, high school would truly suck without my partner-in-crime; he has been there when I needed to rant about a class, stress about an audition, and cry about how college is a hard, scary topic. He has been my rock and a huge part of my heart for such a long time, he is my best friend. And so, this article is dedicated to him as we celebrate the crazy relationship we built together.

Firstly, Brett and I are polar opposites: dog vs. cat, dark vs light, north vs south (whatever floats your boat, you get the idea). Our interests, hobbies, and beliefs always seem to be very different and sometimes counteract the other person. But this doesn’t really bother me; I see the “opposites attract” theory as a way of learning not just about another person, but learning more about life experiences in general. Compromising, communicating, accepting…these are skills that develop over time in a relationship, so when we don’t agree on a pizza topping, it’s not the end of the world.

The amount of support that he gives me (whether it’s following my dreams, fighting for what I believe is right, or if I’m just insane) is unreal. I’m deeply involved with theatre (if you can’t already tell), and I’ve been thinking about pursuing music and the arts as a career because it is what I love to do. Brett has been to every one of my performances and never fails to bring flowers. I’m confident and open about my future goals with him, and that kind of support is extremely important in a relationship. I’m thankful to have a boyfriend who is positive about the future, not afraid of it, and his support is a huge motivation for me to live life to the fullest.

I’m a bit crazy, I’ll admit it (what girl isn’t?). But even when I am insane or upset or just over the top angry without a reason, he tries his hardest calm me down and make me feel better. I can call him in tears yet he would be willing to solve whatever problem I have and make me smile. He is thoughtful and kind, and always puts my thoughts and feelings into consideration first.

I could talk about how amazing this guy is for hours, but 500 words will have to do. My overall conclusion is that without knowing Brett, life would suck. Not in an “oh no, I need a boyfriend!” life would suck, but under the terms that he is my best friend. The foundation to this relationship isn’t perfect; it has cracks and boulders and weak spots. But the last three years have built me as a person and opened my eyes to knowledge and unforgettable memories. I cannot be more thankful for all that he does nor can I fit all the reasons why I love him into such a small article.

I love you kiddo.

~em.