This one is dedicated to all of those amazing beautiful girls who got their hearts broken by some guy who didn't realize how good he had it. Never did I expect to experience a heartbreak like this, but you taught me more from our relationship than I ever thought possible.
Dear (insert a**hole's name here),
THANK YOU!
Before we get into anything, I want to make sure I thank you for everything you have put me through because it made me a better person and showed me what I really deserve. I'm really not sure where to begin. So I am just going to jump into things. If you're reading this, you probably didn't expect a 'thank you' from me, or at least not a sincere one. To be honest, I never thought it a million years I would have the nerve to write this letter either.
First, I want to thank you for showing me I deserve better. You've cheated on me repeatedly and I kept giving you more chances in spite of the fact that you have proven to be untrustworthy. You showed me that a 'real man' should come pick you up at your house, drive you, and pay for your date out. Not the other way around. You showed me that I shouldn't have to stay up all night worrying about you because you were at with the boys or your phone was dead for the whole day and night. We went hours without talking where I didn't know what was going on. You showed me I don't and never will need a man who doesn't know what's right from wrong.
Second, I want to thank you for showing me I don't need a man to depend on for my own happiness. After our relationship ended, I felt my own happiness coming from my family, friends, and finally doing stuff that made me happy. I started doing everything I've always wanted to do but never was able to because I thought it was wrong to spend time with my friends and/or family instead of seeing you for the night. You showed me that having a night in with the girls could be more fun than going out with a boy who just makes you feel horrible about yourself.
Lastly, thank you for showing me who I really am. In our relationship I always felt I had to change myself to be the girl you wanted (the party girl). You didn't want me to have my own values, goals, or dreams because you thought I should be following what you wanted and what you had planned for 'our future'. However, that was wrong. Every person needs to be their own person because of the experiences, struggles and accomplishes they went through.
At the end of the day I will never hate you, not because you were my first love, but because you showed me more about myself than ever possible and I found who I was.
Love always,
Me
