I know how this sounds, but this is in no way sarcasm. How can you possibly thank someone who did so much damage to you in the past? How can you thank the person who made you doubt your self worth? It seems insane honestly. But over time, you learn that as bad as it was, you wouldn't be in the place you are today without that horrible heartbreak. I honestly am so thankful that everything happened the way it did because I am so much better off because of it.

Thank you for treating me terribly. The way you treated me was messed up in so many ways. I never thought I would be able to come back from it. I lost so much confidence at the time. But I still am grateful for it. Thank you for making me realize that I deserve so much more than that. Thank you for showing me that maybe sometimes the little bit of good in people just isn't enough for me. Thank you for giving me clear sight of what a relationship should NEVER be. Thank you for teaching me to guard my heart better and to not let anyone in that was destructive to me. I set standards that I didn't have before and there has never been a better decision I've made in my life than that. You slowly but surely taught me that I am so much more than what I thought I was.

Thank you for making me question my abilities. You always made me feel like I was just a mess up. I doubted everything I ever did. Which led to a lot of self-esteem problems. Overall, though, this has led me to recognize my talents and work on the things I can improve on. You made me realize that I had to work hard to be the best I can be. I started to realize that I am a beautiful and unique individual that deserves to be proud of myself. I bring things to this world that no one else can and I would still be struggling with this if it wasn't for you.

Thank you for reminding me that you didn't value me. It was so hard loving someone without getting anything back. I felt like I was the problem. I would sit on the floor on a late, gloomy night wondering why I wasn't good enough for you. One of those nights, I came to an amazing realization: I deserve to be valued. I deserved to find someone who would look at me with admiration and appreciation. Not only did I deserve that from a significant other, but from myself as well. You constantly making me wonder about what was wrong with me eventually led me to realize that I am perfect the way I am and I deserve someone who appreciates that.

Thank you for ruining my trust. You made me lose every single amount of trust I have ever had in my heart. I struggled with making friends and accepting the people who love me in my life. I could only think of how people would eventually hurt me. I started to think that the only person I needed was myself. I slowly started gaining my trust back but I started to be more cautious of who I let into my life. This sounds like a bad thing; however, as a result of this, I was able to eliminate all of the negative people in my life. I also had higher standards for who I trusted. I met some of the most beautiful souls I have ever met because I looked for people who held the some values as me. I now only surround myself with people who will pick me up when I am down and who make me become the better version of myself.

Thank you for crushing my heart. It took a long time to get over you. It took even longer to get over what you did to me. Through all of this mess, I was able to pick myself up off the ground and completely rebuild myself from scratch. That is strength. I was very bad at coping with life before you came along. Now, I am always able to pick myself back up from everything life throws at me. It isn't always easy, but you prepared me for things I could have never gotten through without the past experience. I also found someone who is everything you weren't. I found someone that appreciates me for who I am. I found someone who makes me grow as a person and feel confident in myself in my abilities. I found someone who was worth all of the pain. Without you, I would probably still be in and out of unstable and manipulative relationships. You led me to the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and as much as I never thought I could do this, I thank you for it.

There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. It may take months, or even years, but you will grow from it. You will start to see that you deserve so much more. You will value yourself like you never have before. It sucks, but eventually, you will be grateful for it.