Depression and anxiety are complicated beasts. They aren’t one dimensional, they aren’t always the same feelings for everyone, they often manifest themselves in ways we never could have imagined and they are extremely prevalent in today’s society. It’s hard to live with either (or both) but it’s also important to note how difficult and confusing it can be to be friends or family of someone suffering from these illnesses. These people are often the unsung heroes of some people’s everyday lives. It isn’t an easy job, and oftentimes it can be frustrating, but for those of you who stick by the side of those you love no matter what goes on inside their heads – thank you.
Thank you for allowing us to have the opportunity to be in an unfamiliar and often stressful situation, but not forcing us or pushing us into the scenario that makes us uncomfortable. It’s so important to give someone with social anxiety or depression to option to go out to be social. All too often, being thrust into a position that makes someone uncomfortable can backfire horribly, and leaves a bad taste in the person’s mouth – preventing them from wanting to go out again.
Thank you for understanding that sometimes we just want to be alone. This isn’t anything personal, it often has nothing to do with our relationship, but occasionally it’s nice to recharge by ourselves and reflect on whatever is going through our heads.
Thank you for supporting us not only in our lowest moments, but our best as well. It’s a great feeling to share a happy thought or experience with those closest to us, no matter who you are. Just as important, though, is being there on the roller coaster of emotions that sometimes rears its head. There will be good days and there will be bad days, so thank you for being there on both ends of the spectrum.
Finally, thank you for being open minded. Getting over the “wall” of anxiety and depression is tough to do alone, so having a hand to help pull us over is invaluable, and it’s important that you know that. It’s one of the hardest things to do; being so close to someone with so much going on inside, and it can be a lot to handle all at once, but we promise you that it does not go unnoticed. The times we share together will stick with us forever, and you will always be cherished as a person and as a friend.
