I’ve seen quite a few articles floating around social media about why fraternity guys are absolutely not husband material. I beg to differ. I know plenty of women who have met their boyfriend/fiancé/husband in a fraternity house, and I know plenty of fraternity men who don’t live to party on the weekends. Here are ten reasons you CAN find a husband in a fraternity house.

They understand what it means to be part of a team. Everyone knows that no relationship can be successful without teamwork. Being in a fraternity means working with a lot of different people and develops great communication skills. 

They uphold a set of values. Every Greek member knows the values upon which their organization was founded, and for the most part, all members strive to uphold those values in their personal lives.

They have good grades. Time and time again, Greeks have proven to have a higher GPA than the overall campus GPA of universities all around the country. Just like sorority women, men are held to certain academic standards in their fraternity as well.

If you respect yourself, they’ll respect you. Too many girls complain about not being respected by the men at a fraternity house, but sometimes it takes a good look in the mirror to realize why they are disrespecting you. Their behavior matters, but your behavior matters, too. If you act like a respectable woman, men and women alike will respect your opinion.

Maturity matters. You’ve heard the saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover,” but sometimes, the cover can tell you a lot. Obviously, a new pledge that just got his bid is probably a lot more immature than the fraternity president.

They’re involved in charitable activities. Just like you have to participate in your philanthropy activities, fraternity men participate in theirs, too.

Context is important. Judging a fraternity guy based on his behavior at the biggest party of the year is probably a bad idea. A lot of college students drink, and a lot of college students make stupid decisions while they drink. It’s human nature. Meeting a guy drunk and meeting a guy sober are two completely different things.

Greeks, as a whole, are successful. You’ve heard the statistics a million times. Presidents, CEOs, Senators, and Supreme Court Judges alike are mostly Greek. I’m not saying that every fraternity guy you meet will be President of the United States, but chances are he’ll be pretty successful.

Not all fraternity men are just interested in hooking up. We’ve all heard stories about that one girl that got way too drunk, hooked up with a guy, and never heard from him again. Once again, drunk people make stupid decisions. It happens. However, I know plenty of women who have had dedicated, long-term relationships with fraternity men. Really ladies, there are guys who are actually interested in relationships.

Just like sorority stereotypes, fraternity stereotypes can be wrong. We all do it. We stereotype a fraternity house based on our experience with one guy or the stories we have heard about a few parties. In this case, one bad apple doesn’t ruin the bunch. You may be surprised at the men you’ll meet when you ignore the stereotypes.

Sure, there are some fraternity men who live to party, but don’t let one bad guy (or fraternity experience) ruin your opinion of all fraternity men.