It’s that time in my life where people are constantly asking if I have a boyfriend or if I’m seeing anyone. During your 20’s, people believe that this is the time where you should be looking for the person you’re going to marry. I have to disagree.

I believe that your 20’s should be the time where you find yourself. Think about it, you spent your whole life in school and when/if you graduate college, you’re finally by yourself. There is nothing to preoccupy you and you’re as free as a bird. This is where you can do things that you never did in school, without your high school friends judging what you’re doing or your parents dictating your decisions. Get out of your comfort zone and experiment with things you would never think to experiment with (not drugs though).

With that being said, if you’re spending your time searching and searching for the One, you might miss opportunities along the way. Opportunities such as seeing a movie by yourself or going to dinner alone. These things will help you understand what YOU want in life and not having to worry about pleasing someone else.

Plus, you could see what kind of person you are to other people. If you can't have fun by yourself, then it might be a little hard to with a significant other. I understand there are times where you can and want experience things with your significant other and that’s perfectly fine. I’m not saying dump your boyfriends/girlfriends, just take a breath before jumping into a relationship.

In this time period of being with yourself, you can get a pet or make some friends (easier said than done, I know). A pet will comfort you if you have a hard time being alone and so will your friends. You can take girl trips on the weekends or hang out Saturday nights with the boys. either way, you're enjoying time with others if you need to.

Once you are living your life and doing things your way, someone perfect will come along with the same interests as you. Living a true-to-your lifestyle will attract a person that is worthy of you and you’ll be happy you waited. Just remember, don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.