Distance sucks. It is always too far away, forcing you and your significant other to live miles apart. A long distance relationship means lots of texting, calling, and video chatting. A long distance relationship also means less physical interaction and a longing to be with the one you love. Unfortunately, long distance relationships can be extremely challenging. But, in the end, they are always worth the wait.
My personal experience with a long distance relationship has been extremely positive. I first started dating my boyfriend in the last few months of my senior year of high school. We spent the entire summer together. To my dismay, college started at the end of August. My move was roughly two and a half hours away from home. On my last night in my own house, we promised each other to Skype every night and talk every day. We promised to be faithful and to make things work. And, we did.
However, during my first month of college dormitory living, I saw too many relationships fall apart. Many couples could not handle the distance or did not communicate as much as they should have. Their long distance relationship experiences were awful.
So, what is the key? What is the secret to make a relationship go the distance? How can you stay happy and healthy while being so far apart from your significant other?
In my opinion, communication is the largest factor in a successful long distance relationship. Couples who talk more and hide less will find it easier to be happy without their significant other physically by their side. Frequent calling, texting, and video chatting is what defines your relationship. Being far from your partner leaves you with only your words. The physical and some of the emotional aspects of your relationship are saved for when you meet again. Your words matter.
Trust is another large factor in a successful long distance relationship. You need to trust your significant other, and they need to trust you. As a couple, you both need to trust and respect the actions and activities you both take on while away from each other. You need to trust and respect your significant other's decisions.
In addition, you also need to be faithful. Give up a Friday night or two to stay in and have a Skype date with your significant other. Send texts throughout the day to let them know you are thinking about them. If you promised to call at a certain time every night, then do so. Being faithful leads to trust, and trust is an element that molds your relationship into a solid foundation.
Long distance relationships are challenging. From the days of sending and writing love letters back and forth to today's constant instant messaging and calling, some long distance relationships work, while others may fall apart. But, there is no need to get discouraged! With lots of communication, trust, and faithfulness, every bit of your long distance relationship is worth the wait. Every mile is worth travelling. Every kiss is worth the distance.
