Having Supportive Parents Doesn't Make Me Spoiled

I'm Not 'Spoiled,' I Just Won't Apologize For Having Great Parents

Having supportive parents is one of the best things that ever happened to me.

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When I tell people that I am the baby of my family, there is always a follow-up question asking if I am spoiled. As I was a child, perhaps the situation was a little different because I did not receive material things but instead got my way or rarely was punished. I was most likely spoiled rotten in that sense, especially by my grandparents. Fast forward to the age of 19 and I can say that my parents give me everything that I need, not necessarily everything that I want.

But I still don't think I'm spoiled.

I might legally be an adult, but my parents still provide for me. I may live at school during the semester, but my parents don't charge me rent or utilities when I am at home. My mom still does my laundry. They pay my phone bill monthly. When my mom goes grocery shopping, she doesn't have me chip in to help. She will make sure the bathroom is stocked with tampons or shampoo so I don't have to worry about it. The both of them make sure I have the sufficient needs to not be hungry, cold, or without shelter.

They do all of these things because they want what is best for me.

While they pay my student loans, I give them money to cover it as well as a little extra each month for different expenses. If we go out to eat, I do offer to pay but often get shut down and end up leaving the tip instead. I help around the house and sometimes make trips to the store for food or cleaning supplies, not asking for money to be paid back.

I have a job that gives me decent hours, but my parents understand that money for a college kid is tough.

I pay for my own luxuries such as makeup, cute clothes, even to get my hair cut. Spoiled is typically defined as "damaged by having been given everything they want." Do I want another dog? Yes. Do I have one? No. Do I want a swimming pool in my backyard? Yes. Do I have one? Again, no. That is because both my mother and father still believe in working for what you want and even their daughter doesn't get a free pass unless it's her birthday or Christmas. Do I still have everything I could ever need? Yes.

My parents do the exact same thing for my brother and sister who are older than I am.

I know if I have a problem, whether it be financial or crucial, I can turn to them for help. A lot of people my age don't have parents like I do and I am extremely grateful for them and everything that they do. Thanks, Mom and Dad.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

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Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.


7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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The Rebellious Kids That Grew Up With Strict Parents Are Actually The Most Successful Young Adults

I turned out a lot better than the girl down the street, and she was never allowed out past dark.

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Instead of going out, drinking until I can't drink anymore, and doing it again two days later, I'm working my butt off to save money and becoming a valuable person in society. None of that would be possible if I was still itching to go out to parties and try new things that I haven't gotten to try yet.

From the young age of 14, I was experimenting, sneaking out, and getting smokes and booze any chance I got. This wasn't because of bad parenting, it was because of my creative and rebellious personality that I still have to this day. But now my curiosity is focused on traveling the world, saving money, coming up with business ideas, and figuring out how to be the best person I can be.

Thinking back, I'm pretty sure I was in seventh or eighth grade the first time I ever actually smoked pot. On football Friday nights, you could catch me in the student section with a water bottle filled with vodka. If someone was having a party, I was there. I went out to a bar when I was 16 years old with this old fake ID that I was afraid wouldn't work. Nowadays kids get in huge trouble for stuff like that, but to me, that's literally what growing up is all about.

You can hear someone give you advice over and over again, but until you experience it yourself your lesson will never be truly learned. Some may think that I'm missing out on memories I could make with my friends now, but I have all of those awesome memories from when I was younger. I can also make those memories and be the responsible one out of the group when I do decide that I have time to go out.

I wasn't a "bad kid." I got good grades, I played sports, I had good manners, and I was overall a pretty outstanding young woman. I never let my curiosity get the best of me and that is why I am where I am.

Flash forward seven years later and none of those things even cross my mind anymore. I see my fellow friends going out three to four times a week, running late to work and struggling in school because they are still curious about drinking and trying things that "normal teenagers" try.

Let's be honest, I was judged by some parents and even kids I went to school with because of the things I did. Although now, those same kids that judged me are still living under the shell that their parents created for them and it's holding them back from their economic, social, and mental potential.

Instead of looking hungover for work, I walk in looking like the most seasoned, clean cut, 19-year-old out there. Rather than spending my days planning my outfit for the party this Friday night and struggling to make ends meet, I'm looking into where I want to settle down and buy a home so I can start a business and build it from the ground up.

I beat the system when I was younger and thanks to that I'm killing slaying the boring expectations set by society for people in their early twenties.

So Dad, thanks for not getting an alarm on the house until I was 16. Believe it or not, it has given me a lot of opportunities. Mom, thanks for letting me do everything that Dad wouldn't. Lastly, shout out to all the "bad kids." I can't wait to see where this exciting life takes you.

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